When can i contact him ?:(

Love Me and my ex been going back and forth for about 2 years and now he's done with me. he always said i was bitching but it's only cause the things he would do is unacceptable.. he said he din'r care and din't wanna be with me anymore.. he's never been so rude to me. he said he doesn't wanna talk to me. that night i found on his kik him and another girl kissing and i asked him wtf was this and he said "what part of "done" do you not understand.. he's never been like this towards me and the girl was actually ugly.. he dint respond to my messages or anything.. its been 2 weeks since i've talked to him i miss him and i do stil want him in my life but not on a relationship level., when should i message him? It hurts so bad it's like he wants nothing to do with me anymore. i blocked him from facebook so i wont be even more hurt but it still hurts.. i wanna contact him idk what to do :( he's done this before but ended up contacting me within 1 or 2 weeks..

If the things he was doing/was failing to do were unacceptable to you and were things you believe were right and justified in expecting, yet none of your complaints made the slightest bit of difference in how he'd treat you, then you were simply with the wrong man. You can't *make* a man meet your standards and neither should you lower yours to match his. So you were perfectly correct not to sit there happily tolerating his crumbs. As you can now see under this new circumstance of his no longer wanting to impress or please you (not even half-a*sedly), his true colours are rudeness, disregard, insensitivity, disloyalty, low morals and low self-respect. Now that you're superfluous to requirements you get to see exactly how much respect he gives those he needs nothing from. Hmm. Nice bloke. And you still want him as your - what - friend? Is this the lowly grade of person you think is all you deserve in this life? Is that how YOU'D ever treat someone you liked, respected and/or loved? It's not, is it. So how would you have to view a person in order for you to do so? Have a think. Clearly, he *doesn't* want anything remotely to do with you any more. But the fact that it hurts is no excuse for you wanting and thinking you can reach for another drugs-hit to avoid going cold turkey. That mental drug was toxic and harmful, meaning the mental withdrawal is going to be equally so because you're not JUST getting over a failed relationship, are you. You're also having to get your head around who he REALLY was. I know it's a head-f**k of the highest order when your seeming friend and lover suddenly transforms into a nasty monster. Invasion of the body-snatchers comes to mind. But you have to deal with the now-revealed truth, as above. The reality which only now he's letting you see, is that he was never a nice or loving person. He just pretended he was for as long as it seemed worth his while to do so. But it's HARD for a person to keep up that fairly nice guy act, 24/7. Hence you were constantly left disappointed and wanting more. That was his best acting job. (Not much of a best, was it.) He's not got with ANOTHER WOMAN before, has he. So it appears this time is different... really is the end. If, however, it turns out it IS just an act, then that makes him even MORE of a nasty piece of work because trying to make you believe he has/had so little feelings for you that he's capable of having so soon cultivated feelings for another woman (and enough not to want his relationship with you back), can be for no other agenda than to render you SLAVE to his Master so that you'll never DARE complain again (or else he'll not just leave you for the Nth time but also hook up with another). Instead of you feeling happy and loved up, you'll spend the entirety of that relationship feeling like a woman going through heartache irrespective that the relationship technically is ongoing. Why bother? What on earth would you get out of that aside from constant, varying degrees of pain? If this latest IS just an act, he's finally dug his own grave. Because if he did then return back to you, this time you couldn't possibly feel safe and secure enough even to enjoy ONE IOTA of the (meagre) benefits of the relationship. You'd be too busy waiting for his now even BIGGER Sword of Damocles to come sweeping down on your neck literally any time you dared make any demands or behaved in anyway that didn't represent the relationship being ENTIRELY on his terms (and sod your feelings and welfare) and you acting like he's wonderful and can do no wrong. Either that'll turn you into a bit of a basket case or you'll reach the end of your tether and dump HIM...and then feel cheated and angry at yourself for not having dumped him way WAY earlier on. He doesn't love you. He never did. And he's an immature, abusive little despot. No man who has any love or even like or even the merest regard for a woman (or any woman) constantly scares and shocks her to her core to keep her in a state of permanent insecurity and anxiety. (A genuinely nice guy is not happy unless he's making *you* happy, first and foremost.) Neither does this ex have any fine feelings for this new woman (whom, incidentally, was probably *chosen specifically* for her unattractiveness in order to make her feel too GRATEFUL for having him as her boyfriend that she, likewise but worse, won't ever dare ask or insist on receiving what she wants or what's fair and thereby in the process risk displeasing or p*ssing him off). He doesn't want a girlfriend, he wants a Stepford 'Wife': "Yes, your highness, no, your highness, anything you say, your highness,...you're so wonderful and awe-inspiring, and I'm nothing but sh*t on your shoe". If you value your welfare AND your chances of being in a fit enough state to be someone else's girlfriend material at whatever point soon, don't contact him nor accept any potential contacting attempts from him. All you'll be achieving is yet again delaying this inevitable pain of detachment (in your case, from a major habit *and* a false reality). The pain is a process, and like all processes, it has an end.