My life has changed and I don't know if I like it

i have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for just over 3 years now and for the majority im happy. Recently though i have begun to realize the life i had before her is so different and when i think about it i really miss the life i used to lead. It just feels that slowly over time all my friends and normal social relationships have been eroded away by my girlfriend to the point that i wont even meet up with any girl as a friend because i know my gf will be "off" with me. She sems to have no faith in me and to avoid the awful guilt i unjustly feel ive cut all links with people ive know for much longer than her. Like i said im mostly happy but i think tht i need more space and freedom than my relationship is allowing me, part of me thinks i should end it but i know how utterly distraught my partner would be. Its such a confusion that i find myself ignoring it however i know it will only bubble up later and hurt her even more. Is this how being in a long term relationship is supposed to feel because at the moment it feels like she is in control of my life. I would find it extremly difficult to talk to her about somthing like this as im sure it would turn into an argument but if i cant be open about this am i just postponing the inevitable? anyones opinion would help as im at a complete loss

I think everybody looks back on a specific time in their life and misses it/wishes that things were still like that. Even if you do break up with your girlfriend, things aren't going to go back to the way they were in the past, because you'll still be at a different place in your life. Don't break up with her if you think it'll mean everything will go back to the way it was before her. However, if you feel like you're in a controlling relationship, then that's something different. You should tell her how you feel, but I think you're probably right about it causing an argument. Can't you just include her when going out with your girl friends? Like make it a group thing? If you're hanging out with just one girl friend then your girlfriend will probably be jealous, but if you're going out with a group of people and invite her to come too then there's not much she can be mad about. I can't tell you whether or not you should break up with her, but if decide to stay in the relationship then you're going to have to start trying to compromise and hanging out with your friends again, or else you're going to end up resenting her.

Hi its seems that you really do love your gf, but you should not stop being around people just because of her. When your in a relationship you should keep your friends because if ur relationship did finish where is all the people you had before her. just talk to her and tell her how you feel. its ok to wnt the life you had before her but think of all the good times you had with her. dont loose her just because of the life you had before her. it might not get back to the way it was.