Is my husband A-sexual? He has been rejecting me for 3 years

My husband is a Great father and person and while it is OVBIOUS that he loves me i 100% believe he is not "in love" with me or interested in me at all romantically! He NEVER initiates sex, he constantly rejects me, even when i offer him oral! He is not affectionate st all! I am DYING inside! I am a very attractive woman, i have Never had problems attracting men! The lonliness and lack of affection and sex has me so depressed i cannot function! I am starting to seek out other men for attention and can see myself having an affair. I have brought this subject up for 3 years and he refuses to talk about it! We've been in marital counseling for almost 2 years with no improvment. I do not believe he is gay or having an agfair. He is 44 and abused steroids really bad in his 30's. I suspect its a hormone issue but again he REFUSES to address this! What do other men or wonen do when their spouse rejects them all the time???

You need to divorce him then. If you have tried to talk to him many times about this..to get some help...if you have tried and tried and he doesn't want to do anything about it...then you have to move on for YOU. IT's been 3 YRS and STILL he refuses to deal with what's going on with him.Well you have done ALL you can do for your marriage.It's time for you to leave before you end up doing something that you will regret...like having an affair.Get out of this marriage and move on to find someone who will treat you right. Here is what will happen if you don't...you will end up cheating on him..making you feel like crap..then when you tell him that you;ve cheated..he will take it out on you..making you feel even worse.You can't force someone to get help with their problem if they don't want to...you can't.I know it's hard to leave someone you love BUT he's not making any move to deal with his sexual issues..NOTHING.You need to look out for you now.