Humiliation

i am a 52 year old man, a few years back(please read my story in the embarassing section!) i was gang raped by my wife and about 20 of her friends on a hen night. i was used as the spare naked man. is this normal behaviour in womens circles? it would be nice if i wasn't alone in this occurence. is there any other man/women out there whom has a simular experience to share to make me feel better. is it just fun, or a form of male rape?

This is indeed rape. And, no, it is not normal behavior in women's circles. I feel sorry for you just as I would a woman. Have you told your wife how you feel about it? How can you stay with a woman that has done this to you? If it were a woman, we would be telling her to get away from him and call the police. But, unfortunately, you're a man and people will not take this seriously. Maybe you should get some counseling and take it from there. Best of luck to you.

thankyou for your response . that incident has now been long forgotten about, because i'm strong, and i have since got rid of that wife. obviously if it was done in fun for all concerned, including me, then that would be most mens fantasy coming true. i just have to live with it, it happened, and i cant turn back the clock. i trust that you have read the whole account on another part of this site. why is there 2 sides to fun, womens!, which is ok, and they were just letting their hair down, and mens, for if we did it to them, then this reply would be being posted from inside a prison cell. sometimes us blokes have a raw and unfair deal, but i suppose thats life. perish the thought that i would ever decide to get a few chaps together and do the same to one, or all of them. but i would never hurt, or rape a women, or even assault them by even stripping them in front of hordes of onlookers, which was the main embarassment, and you would not expect wives to do that to their own husbands would you?. but then again, we blokes are just cheap cannon fodder arn't we but thankyou anyway. i would appreciate some more feed back on this. all the best.

Well, I am happy to hear that you've gotten rid of her. You are a human being first of all and then a man. No human deserves to be treated in that manner and no man deserves to be either. Yeah, I agree that men do not get a fair shake in situations such as these. Society has quite a different take on women being rape and I am not sure they have even accepted the fact that a man can be raped as well. Yes, I did read the entire story on the other section--what a nightmare for you. As for her and the fun part of it--well, she(they)may have had fun but what they did harmed another person. As a result, she did something that was so far from in sync with harmony and love that this will indeed come back to her. Some people call it karma, some the law of attraction. None the less, that's the way it works. She will have to deal with her demons in life or they will deal with her. As for you, do things out of love for yourself and others and it will be returned to you--regardless of the way other fools are acting. Please, stop beating yourself up for being a man. The world needs men--good and honest men. Just be that and you'll be doing your part. If the others can't join in or just don't get that we should all be decent human beings, well, that's something that they will have to deal with sooner or later. I hope you find a good and honest woman to share your life with but if not, hey, you still have yourself--and that's not a bad thing. Stay strong.