The only truth is my name

I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years....... the only issue is that it all started with a lie. I sent her a text which basically professed my love toward her, however this text was meant for someone else and at the time I couldn't say anything because of my job. I have been living, working and sleeping with her for just over a year. We have another year left on our private rental lease. I want out but if I do then she cant afford the rent. Also if she moves somewhere she can afford then I cant afford the rent either. To get out of this situation I need a new job and a new home. To begin with this was fun and I liked being with her but now looking back I find that in hindsight I have lied to her about at least 5 different things each day to keep the initial lie going. I have now literally been lying about every thing. I need a way out for both of us. I like her as a friend but I can't go on living and working with her 24/7....... its a strain on me to keep lying and its a strain on her because while Im worrying my head off about all this Im not looking after her or the flat in which we live so then she has a go at me. This on top of every little lie I've told is just too much. A list of my major lies 1. I said I loved her 2. I said I had slept with 8 people before her (its only 2) 3. I want to propose 4. I like her family(they're all stone faced) 5. I cant clean or cook 6. I wont progress in my chosen field of expertise if she doesn't want me to 7. That I agree with her life choices (she hates every job, shes only holding this one down because I'm here too) 8. I will put my world travel dream on hold because she doesn't want to go 9. I told her I want 2-3 kids (I like them but I don't want any) And then there's all the little day to day ones..... like "where were you?" "I was at work" or "I got lost" or just something plausible but far fetched enough so she cant check. Basically 80% of what she knows about my life is a big stinking lie. What should I do?

Someone will be able to help you better than me, but the fact that you are coming clean with yourself and taking responsibility for all of it is a great beginningto solving your issue

She sounds childish and selfish. You sound like a people pleaser. You both need to grow up and move on. This is only going to get worse, you're both miserable I bet.. only difference is that you know why you are, she probably has no real clue why she is. In future, grow some balls and be yourself, be a man. This lying is something that you do (or anyone does) when they are afraid of responsibility for their actions. Over time you realise that by lying you can avoid (put on hold tbh) any confrontation, but it builds up the more you lie. It snowballs as the lies get bigger, the confrontation builds up too. You could have avoided this with a tiny bit of embarrassment and maybe a falling out for a few days if you were honest from the start, but now.. mate, this is a mount edna. You're going to need to deal with the consequences before it becomes even bigger. You were a coward, maybe by confrontng what you have done, you will learn your lesson and set the poor lassie (and yourself) free.

Hi! As much as I agree with the what few people have suggested you, here is what I feel... If the girl figures out that u have been lying 80% of everything everyday...she will be devastated and will find it very difficult to get over and move on and also she might not be able to trust anyone in future. Atleast it may take a long time. What I suggest is that you break off with her with evident reasons that u are not compatible anymore or that its not working. If u break-up I am sure she will find a place to go or viceversa. U can get a job some other place and say u are moving away...I am sure finding a job is not difficult. Once u find a job you can move out. All in all this has to stop now. If u keep on going she may find out the truth in a wrong way which is be very bad for the both of you. Also you are actually using the situation to your benefit. Which will only make you get used to this kind of thing. Please stop this and DONT ever do this with anyone. Any relationship even friendship for that matter can never be based on a lie. The only thing nice about your situation is that you have realised what u doing is wrong. Now come clean. Do yourself and her a favour. Good Luck!