Desperate or dumb

So I've been dating this man for 4 years . Our relationship has been mainly based on emotional and physical support, #cuddle buddies but has time went on love developed. So basically he cheats on me constantly with his children's mother leaving me insecure and emotional drained. So yes I.cry all the damn time. I've been fighting for years to have this man too myself , now we're finally living together our relationship is miserable. He just dosent seem happy with me. Blame my emotional meltdowns ate the cause of his unhappiness , how the hell am I.suppose to stop.crying if he won't stop cheating wtf

Your challenge is to really 'see' that this guy is no good for you. You need him to be more than a cuddle buddy if you're to find any happiness. While you allow him to live with you and disrespect you, you will always be miserable and crying. Why bother to fight for a man who doesn't have the want or the need OR the passion to fight for you? It obvious that this guy is still hung up on the mother of his children and his actions should be a red flag to you and long before it's got to this stage given your four years dating. All successful relationships are based on trust and if you don't have it, regardless of how long you've fought for it, you won't have any sort of a relationship...it's that simple. You have a choice to remove yourself from a situation which is rapidly bringing you down. Ask yourself if you REALLY need someone in your life who is contributing to your misery and ruining your happiness using their own insecure actions.

Dear Cutiepie85, You love him. Definitely. But he does not love you. Love means support, care, trust and a lot of things that this man cannot give you. You want him to be with you, to love you, to be loyal to you. I understand but you cannot win him over if you do not control yourself. You need to take charge of your life and your emotions. After an year or so, all this will sound really silly to you. You will be surprised to recollect that you cried over such silly matters. Life is bigger and happier than all of this. You just need to find your place and find a right path for you. If you want this relationship to work, you need to give him space. Take a break from this relationship. You can try and figure out and work through your emotions meanwhile. If he truly loves you, he will come back. If he doesn't , you definitely deserve better. We all wan to fight for what we love, but at one point you need to stop before the fight completely destroys you. Stay strong and always believe that happiness is within you. Wish you lots of courage and strength.

He doesn't want to be alone, but he also doesn't want you as much as he wants the mother of his kid. Sorry for being so blunt but that is how it comes across, you should never be in this much emotional turmoil over someone, especially if the person is living with or dating you. If he's constantly cheating it's because she has a hold over him, she knows it, uses it to keep her power and tbh, he is like Oliver Twist here, pleading for more from her. You need to move on before you become an emotional and depressed shell of who you really are inside and find someone who will be awe struck by you and love everything about you, not some emotional bully who is using childishly you as a security blanket when the other woman plays with him.