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Suspicious of wife masturbating

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I am suspicious of my wife masturbating, multiple signs lead to it being fact or am I overthinking. Just last night she went to bed before me (about a hour) when I went to bed I could tell she wasn't asleep so I rolled to face away to give her her privacy and see if I could finally confirm my suspicions which have been active for the past few months. After 15 minutes I started to heavily breathe with slight snoring to indicate I was asleep, after about 25 minutes I heard her roll over to see if I was actually asleep, I remained motionless continuing the breathing and snoring in the same rhythm. Then it started I could hear her breathing quite heavily and rustling of the sheets. There was not much moaning as such just panting while exhaling her breathe, I'm positive she she had 2 orgasms within 1 hour. Every time I rolled over to try to catch a glimpse she would stop until I was facing the opposite direction, she was sleeping on her stomach with one leg straight and the other bent at the knee and horizontal (if that makes sense) which I thought could have been adequate for masturbation. The reason I'm suspicious is not only last night but almost every night dating back even 7 years I would hear noises and moaning that woke me up but I thought I must have dreamt it. Since trying to investigate the fact it's become more evident or so I think maybe my mind and inhibitions are getting the best of me who knows. About 3 months ago I checked her web browsing history and found she had been watching porn frequently when I confronted her she confirmed she did and only masturbated a couple of days prior to her period as she said she was more horny around that time. When It came to my knowledge was when the investigating begun. Her panties are rather wet most mornings. We have a steady sex live on average to 2-3 times a week and she orgasms most of the time during although she doesn't like to participate in foreplay which I do. I'm sure time will tell if it's fact but I needed to express my thoughts and feelings and hopefully I get some feedback that can point me in the right direction. Thanks guys

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She probably is, most women do. It's not unusual. Is there a reason why you have went to such lengths and acted so bizarrely to find out? Religious reasons or deep moral ones maybe, if so then I understand why you posted, if not then I am completely at a loss here. Surely you aren't threatened by the fact your wife masturbates, if you are, you need to have a long think about why you are, almost everyone does it and sneaking about pretending to be asleep to catch her at it is really unhealthy behaviour for a full grown adult.

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No Davey I'm not threatened at all I'm curious!! The thought excites me, as for the sneakiness I think it's necessary to do to avoid her embarrassment. She won't be open about the situation therefore I have to venture other avenues !!

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Well that's entirely different, perhaps she thinks your curiosity is you trying to catch her out and give her into trouble for it. The things you mentioned made me think that was the case, if she doesn;t want to talk about it, she may find it slightly embarrassing or perhaps a little exciting secret she wants to keep to her self. You would need to approach the subject in a way that will allow your wife to know she ism;t doing anything wrong and that you actually enjoy the thought of it, if she feels comfortable with that then in time she will more likely start to make itmore obvious and then encourage you to be involved. It would take time I'd think, and you would need to maske sure you didn;t come across as accusatory when mentioning it.

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