Whether to get married issue

I have been living with my girlfriend for a couple of years now, and don't know whether she really is the right one for me. Whilst we never have any serious upsets in our day to day relationship, even after such a short time of being together I am still not sure. Can anyone offer any advice about what things should be taken into consideration here?

You should not marry the girl if you do not know her character in and out and would say: hey, I love her good parts and I can live with her bad parts. Divorces only happen because both or one of the spouses lacks emotional intelligence and do not know how to talk about problems and express their feelings. But what to do when it comes to the point where you have drifted apart because you found out you can't live together anymore? Again mature behaviour is needed to settle things without a fight. If one of the parties lacks this then there is big trouble. Sorry for the English it is not my native language.

I was in a relationship for 8 years. Whenever the conversation came round to marriage/children etc I would always say, "yeah some day, maybe in a few years... etc" Deep down I couldn't see myself marrying the girl. When I looked at her, I couldn't imagine her being the mother of my kids or even being a mother. I tried to get out a few times but always went back, until last year. I then met with an ex from my childhood, we started seeing each other again. My feelings were SO different from the previous relationship of 8 years. It just felt right, like it should be. I just knew she was the one and I that I wanted to have children with her. We're getting married in 4 months time. I guess if it doesn't feel right, don't do it, because when it is right - you just know.

Hey Russ, how are things now? Have you made any decisions on whether you are going to marry this girl yet?

Hi Russ and Guy I am writing a book about decisions in relationships and I wondered if either of you would like to be interviewed for it? Just send me a message here if you would, and we'll arrange to talk. All the best, Alanna

If you dont know if she is the right one for you chances are she isnt the right one . When you know you know and if you have doubts rember the saying of marry in haste regret at your own leisure

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