My feelings suddenly changed, now I'm stuck

Ok. So, I've been dating this guy for a year now. At first I was madly in love, which is normal, and then the feeling eventually subsided, which is normal too. And now, 10 days earlier out of the blue I got this feeling I just can't be with him anymore. I'll say this flat out, he annoyed me before but on normal basis. Now...when he says "I love you" I feel like puking. EVERYTHING about him ANNOYES me. He wants to talk at least 4 times a day. And I would have told him I didn't want to but it just seemed unfair since I like talking to him too. Sometimes it suits me to talk 4 times a day, sometimes I don't wanna hear a word from him. And then all those goofy romantic things he says, that didn't bother me before, now, I can't listen to that anymore. It's driving me crazy. He's clingy behaviour is literally DRIVING ME CRAZY! As I said, I had periods when he annoyed me but never like this. Never. The dillema I'm facing is next. Besides his stupidly goofy behaviour he's great. He carries my bag, he doesn't care about sex, he would never cheat, he never lies, he honours his principles, he looks good. Not the steeming hot kind I like, but since this is the real world I'm living in, then he's probably the best looking kind I'll ever get. Another thing that freaks me out is...I'm 18. I don't want to know with whome I'm gonna spend my life with and he insists on me being his "happily ever after". I don't wanna hear that. But the thing is, he is the only person I can talk to about everything and since I don't have many friends (I have maybe 1 reliable friend) I feel that by losing him I would lose the person I can confide to. I feel like I would lose my only friend in the world and would, from then on, be alone and lonely. This is what scares me the most. Being alone. And I know that if i leave him, I will just look for another relationship again. I'm an addict on relationships. So I can't tell if I'm just undergoing my addict crisis or is this serious problem. Should I correct my behaviour, somehow logically justify it by me being an only child that never learned how to be independent and never had anyone so close as a sibling or ...? Because I know if I leave him I will beat myself up until a new guy comes around and then what? The whole circle again? And I feel so shallow, but sometimes I look at my boyfriend now and think "I hope he'll look better in the future" but I know he's one of the better looking ones. What's going on in my mind? Help. I don't want to hurt both him and myself for some silly reason.

Hello DylanDog, Sounds like you got yourself a "situation" on your hands. So, where do we start? First of all, I would have to question the "madly in love" statement in your second sentence. True love, takes time and gets stronger with time, not weaker. Lust, on the other hand, well, that's usually super stimulating around the first few months or so, then suddenly, reality sets in, and the "fairy-tale illusion" of a happily-ever-after kicks you in the ass, and you find yourself asking questions like, "WTF?!!!!!" "What's going on? Why don't I feel the same way towards this person? Why is he annoying me? Why do I feel like puking when he expresses the way HE feels towards me?" and on and on.... you understand. When you guys first met, apparently, you were looking at HIM through a "filtered" perception of your prince charming. Maybe, maybe not. Here's another thing I noticed... This person is your friend, which I don't know about you sweetheart, but good friends are hard to come by these days. If you've got someone like that, then you may want to keep that in mind while we talk about this next part. Here goes.... #1, my 1st reaction to this post after reading it was this: YOU HAVE LOST YOUR ATTRACTION FOR THIS PERSON AS A MATE. He has been placed in your FRIEND zone and women don't typically stay attracted to guys that are "looked-at" as "friends." Maybe the "friends with benefits" thing sounds tempting, but that doesn't work either. Now, another thing I would question is the "things" you are saying about your "FRIEND." Like this... (got this feeling I just can't be with him anymore) (he annoyed me before but on normal basis.) (when he says "I love you" I feel like puking) (EVERYTHING about him ANNOYS me) (sometimes I don't wanna hear a word from him) (all those goofy romantic things he says, that didn't bother me before, now, I can't listen to that anymore. It's driving me crazy.) (He's clingy behaviour is literally DRIVING ME CRAZY) (I had periods when he annoyed me but never like this. Never) (Besides his stupidly goofy behaviour he's great.) (Not the steeming hot kind I like, but since this is the real world I'm living in, then he's probably the best looking kind I'll ever get) We'll stop there. Here, ALL of your focus is on the "annoying" things that HE does, that YOU don't like anymore for whatever reason, because I'd bet, he was probably already like this from the beginning. Let me ask YOU a question... "Is this how you talk about your friends?" I won't answer that for you, only YOU can answer that. Now, let's look at a bit more positive statements that came from you.... (He carries my bag, he doesn't, he would never cheat, he never lies, he honours his principles, he looks good.) (he's probably the best looking kind I'll ever get) (he is the only person I can talk to about everything and since I don't have many friends) (I feel that by losing him I would lose the person I can confide to. I feel like I would lose my only friend in the world and would, from then on, be alone and lonely.) (I know if I leave him I will beat myself up) (I know he's one of the better looking ones). Those are a bit more positive. My answer to your situation? GET CLEAR ON WHAT YOU WANT OUT OF LIFE. PERIOD!!! If this guy is going to be "just a friend" then YOU need to take the necessary steps to let this person know EXACTLY how you feel! Get ready to face your fears of loneliness and deal with it and move on, that way HE CAN DO WHAT HE NEEDS TO DO AND MOVE ON SO THAT HE CAN FIND SOMEONE THAT TRULY APPRECIATES HIM AND HIS LOVE THAT HE APPARENTLY HAS FOR YOU. It's not going to be easy, but HONESTY IS THE ONLY SOLUTION, really. You owe it to him and you owe it to yourself. If you guys are mature enough, then perhaps, you can save the friendship, but not be in a relationship (boyfriend/girlfriend) with each other. If immaturity is a factor, then, you have to DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES. Hope this helps.. Xantasia