The million dollar life choice

Background: I am a 21 year old Male asian student studying Hospitality Management (hotels) The most common advice given in lecture halls and motivational speeches is "Do what you love doing the most, Follow your dreams, You can achieve anything you desire" and the famous Alan Watts advice now given to ever university student. http://zenpencils.com/comic/98-alan-watts-what-if-money-was-no-object/ The thing is... When you're asian it's not just money you're after. It's harmony too. I have a choice between joining my father's business and becoming and living the millionaire lifestyle (real estate) vs Starting my own pub with some friends and Having this crazy marketing gimmick to kick it off which may or may not do well but on hard accounts, it'll take me 2 years to break even and start making considerable profits which even then won't be the level that I could get if I put half of that effort into my dad's business. There is another issue. While I don't want any of it, my dad has an empire around him and he really feels mortal and looks upon me to carry on his empire. I don't think I am capable of handling myself let alone an entire empire... I have trouble keeping my room clean, shaving and bathing every single day and I have every stupid habit in the book (procrastination, lazy, long hours of video games, late nights etc.) I am really good at getting research and high IT work done though. Part of the discipline plan in my younger years was to limit the money we got to miserly levels and I got a job as a Network Admin for a company and made shitty iPhone apps and sold them. I can also speak in 6 languages and have the ability the absorb massive amounts of data in short periods (if I am interested). My dad did point out that the money I can potentially make in an entire year would be made in like what... 2 days and I am wasting my time. While The younger part of me is all about Alan Wats and doing what I believe, reality hits me and tells me this: Assuming something does affect the health of my dad, I'll be absolutely incapable of holding millions of dollars of estate and without any knowledge, it'll be like the scene in batman where joker just sets a million dollars to fire. It'll be anti-thesis to my relations with the extended family as it is expected of the son to be able to up hold the reigns of the business immediately. It'll just create so much bad blood and feuds and arguments will be all over the place. I want to complete my 3rd year university... But because of an argument I can't until February which means now in this transition time, I can't do anything. I feel so helpless and depressed because I see all my friends completing university and I can't even go. The thing is I really resent the fact that life has made the choice for me... I feel helpless against it. I hate the fact that I had no say in the matter. Even If I do "follow my dreams" it would just be such a selfish thing to do... My father needs my help right now.. he has no one else to share his burdens and pains with and I am trying to do my own thing. How can I follow my dreams knowing that I have hurt my family, been a disappointment and in the future who knows if everything fails for me and my friend/family is in the hospital, where will I tap the funds necessary to pay it off from ? But I am conflicted that if I do follow my dad's business, what happened to my chance ?? My time to make some mistakes ? My quest on seeing if I can succeed in life in my own way ? My room for improvement or error ? What if I was.... content and could manage with my smaller establishment. I just feel so scared of committing to either options... Your job is like your wife. It takes all your time, is part of you and you make every single decision and life choice with her in mind. I need to pick carefully as whichever I pick will take 100% of my time and attention. There isn't 'doing both' or 'one after the other' or 'Finish this than that'. In either businesses, you roll money in very different ways, Cash flow paths are sooo different amongst them that i'll have to remain shaking my hands for 2-3 years in case I decide 'it's not for me'. I... am just so lost -_-"... Sorry for the long rant. If you need clarification on something please ask. I just typed everything in 1 go. I can clarify more details on request.