Having second thoughts

I am 21 and I have been with my bf since high school and it seems like the older we get the more we argue. He is so lazy and immature I don't know what to do.I feel like I'm losing my best friend and I do not want to start over and find someone else. What should I do?

First of all don't think that your relationship is completely ruined because it is not. Relationships tends to change over time whether good or bad but there are some things that never stay the same. Maybe your bf and you have been slowly breaking away from eachother because there is not much commitment and communication. Let me tell you though your bf can change and you'll still have your best friend. Try to watch movies together. Have a night where both of you leave every thing else behind and talk to each other about yourselves and life. The key to your problem is COMMUNICATION. Tell him what you feel maybe he feels the same but just don't know it yet. Do this and I bet you won't have to start over with someone new because you'll both figure out what's wrong and what to do about your relationship to make it stronger and happier like it was before.

We've tried everything.

Why don't you want to start over and find someone else? If you had an old pair of favourite shoes that were nowadays too small and starting to give you increasing pain and discomfort, and you'd tried everything, including deliberately stretching them and putting softening agents onto the shoe material, wouldn't you face the fact that it was time to buy a new pair? Or are these shoes NOT too small and it's more that your feet are currently swollen, meaning, you need to take a break from wearing them and go barefoot for a while so that when you return to them they'll hopefully well fit again?

Its a lot of work being in a relationship and to go find another is to much. But I see your point I'm just going to take a break.thank you for the advice.

De nada. :-)