Childhood is stuff affecting me but the older I get the worse I get

me and my brother got put into care when i was 4 years old but however hard i try i cant forget my past, when i was a child. Ive got depression, dyslexia, adhd and im epileptic. I started getting really angry quikly when i was about 4-5 after i was put in care but now im older when i get angry i lash out but its worse than it was. I feel i cant go near people and as an effect ive been isolating and was self harming. I just need some help really. Thankyou for anyone who cares

HI, How old are you? Are you under a doctors care for any of your medical/mental issues? If not why not? What does your self harming entail? Please understand that there is help for people with your issues.

I am sorry to hear of your situation. It is good that you are reaching out for help. Were you abused when put into foster care? Do you know what you are angry about? Was it something that happened in foster care, or you just didn't like foster care in general? Were you with your brother in foster care? Is he angry about anything as you say you are? Do you now who your parents were? Are you angry about that, about why you were put in foster care? Why can't you go near people, because of your anger? I've had times like that in my life, where I didn't want to go around people, but being alone made me more depressed. I know it's a confusing situation. Can you go to a group therapy type of thing, where other people in the group have problems, also. Does your brother have similar difficulties? Can you be positive about solving problems? If you go to a psychiatrist, he or she may can help you. I'm manic-depressive and take lithium and an anti-depressant and it helps. Have you ever been on medication? If so, did it help? I'm sorry you're having so much difficulty. Please try to be positive about helping yourself, and getting some help. Can you look in the computer yellow pages for your town and find a psychiatrist? Do you have anybody who can help you with things like this?

Im 13 now and only on adhd medication. I try to cut a lot and just dont eat My parents abused us. I dont really know i think i was angry at my parents. I just didnt really like it. My brother was in a different foster home then md and i dont know caus ei havnt really had contact. I know who my parents are yeah. Im scared what ill do to them. I used to go to therapy but group would scare me, just the idea scares me.

Because your only 13, I suggest that you write down how you're feeling, talk about your anger, explain that your are now cutting yourself. Express that you are unable to deal with all of these issues and you want help. Ask that your Foster Parent make an Dr appointment for you. When you go give the letter directly to the doctor. Also tell the doctor that your ADHD medication is not helping you with your other serious issues. You must continue to speak up and make yourself heard. It's understandable why you feel the way you do. YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

My english isnt very good and i find it difficult writing things down sometimes. In a way im scared of them giving me anything incase it changes who i am, i know its stupid. Ive tried counseling before and it didnt really help

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I could try, thankyou. My foster parents and foster brother. Its ok i just sometimes feel wrong being here. I could go to a different therapist just worried they cant help. They muight, foster parents car and they might take me Thankyou

When you first wrote here you said you had depression, started having quick, high-level anger at 4 or 5, and now at 13, your anger is worse than it was, and because of that, felt you can’t go near people. From that, you say you are isolating and was self-harming. You said, “I just need some help really. Thankyou for anyone who cares.” You said, “I try to cut a lot and just don’t eat.” So, as you know, this is not getting better, it’s getting worse. Where will it be a year or two from now, and 5 and 10 years from now? I think I know, because I’ve been there. I’ve had 2 people get out of their vehicles, walking over to beat me up, right there at a red light on a four-lane, and this was 20 years before road rage, I invented it, I’ve lost jobs partially to anger, so you can’t top me in that area. I also had some abuse in childhood, so some of my anger may be from that. I’ve also had 3 nervous breakdowns, depression and anxiety attacks for a year or more. Look at what you could be looking forward to it you don’t get help. People could be saying how rough you’ve had it, or how well you’ve been doing despite a difficult beginning. What stopped all of that? Lithium and an anti-depressant. Lithium lowers my depression and reduces my anger, the same medicine does both. I, too, was wondering if the medicine would change me and the doctor said it would not, and it hasn’t, except it lowers my anger and lifts my depression to the point that I can write this letter. From that standpoint, I’m glad it has made me a different person, from one who can’t function to one who can. Does “physical” medicine change people? Yeah, it changes them from people who are sick, to people who aren’t sick. There are child psychiatrists. There are also adolescent psychiatrists. When you went to therapy, did you see one of those? You’re old enough that you’re going to have to start thinking through some of this stuff and start making some good decisions. You got the right start, reaching out for help, it’s that now you’ve put the brakes on and declare that the therapy didn’t help, and you won’t take medicine for your anger or depression,and you can’t forget the past. Because it might change you. Heck, yeah, we hope it does, just like it changed me. We hope it changes you to where you might write and say, “I’m not depressed, I’m not as angry, I don’t dwell on the past, I’m not harming myself.” Otherwise, you wrote here saying you needed help, then suggestions for help were offered, and you didn’t take the suggestions. Help! Now, we’ve offered suggestions, I don’t like you going out into the wilderness in all of this pain. Is there a child psychiatrist near you, male or female, as you choose? The talk therapy is not going to work on its own. I could get talk therapy all day and I’d still be depressed and angry. You need an anti-depressant, and something to lower the anger, just as I needed that. Can you ask one of your foster parents about this? Can you see if they’ll arrange for you to see if you can visit a child psychiatrist? Are your foster parents helpful in that way? Would they be willing to help you?