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Im 15 and i get on with this one teacher really well, we can call him mr x. dont worry this is not a teacher crush problem. iv had a string of things going wrong in my life, and im not really the sort of person to talk about my feelings but for one exception. Mr X use to be my teacher in year 9, from the off me and him got on shared bannter and really got to know each other. my friends around me said me and him are like a perfect match ofcourse i shrugged this off i laughed at their suggestion. this was untill one day he said it to me not in these words but something along the lines of 'you chloe are like a female version off me, maybe even better'. i took note of this, it made me think. and we are we have the same intrests the same humor the same views on life from religion to relationships. but im not the miss lead child to think theres even a spark of a relationship appearing. my problem is that i feel safe, secure when im with him. i feel free to be myself and i feel safe about talking to him about pritty much everything. but my questions are. .. .. .. .. If i talk to him will are relationship change, if i talk to him about thoughs around could his views of these people change and how do i really know its safe to talk to him?

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I get what you are saying. There have been a couple of times in my life where I have met someone who I instantly clicked with. It was like that person has a reserved seat somewhere in my life, and all I had to do was meet him. He is one of my best friends. First question: Every relationship is different. You never know what will happen unless you talk with this person. If he is truly a person you can trust and tell anything to, then the relationship will stay the same or change for the better. He will still be there for you if you need to talk to him. If the relationship changes in a negative way, then you will know that there is a boundary. This could affect the relationship in many ways. In this situation (if it is a strong friendship), then you will either not talk about it again, or you will set limits on what you can talk about. Discuss with him those limits if it becomes necessary. In other words, if you have a strong friendship, it will not die or fizzle out. It will stay the same or change in a way that helps you understand your friend better. Second question: His opinions about others might change or they may stay the same. I can't predict what he will think or say, but his opinions are his opinions. If you don't like his reaction to what you tell him or if you disagree, tell him about it. It's okay if you agree to disagree. He may be able to give you advice, and you may be able to give insight too. Ultimately, what you tell him will depend on how comfortable you are with him. Third Question: The way to know if it is safe is by talking with him and learning more about the type of person he is. My suggestion: Introduce a topic in a subtle way or in a hypothetical way and see how he reacts to it. If you are uncomfortable about his reaction, then don't pursue the topic or pursue it at a later time in a different way. You may want to say, " What do you think about ( general topic related to what you want to discuss)?" or "Do you know of anyone who..." or "I don't know what to do about..." See what he does and go from there.

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