What does she mean by this?

Hi, I have a female friend who always introduces me as her "Special Friend"... what is she saying? Is she interested in a relationship with me.. or is it a subtle way of saying "hands off" to other women? I'm confused as she tends to blow hot and cold with me.

Ever heard of the term "friends with benefits?" You are probably that type of friend to her. More than a friend but not a boyfriend. That is probably why she acts like she does around you. If you are that type of friend, she is not interested in a serious relationship, but she may entertain a no-strings attached relationship where she can get support/intimacy from you without going the next step. She is indicating to others that you are important to her, but you two are not in a romantic relationship.

Hi there, Thanks for your comment. Let me clarify things. I have a few female friends that I go out with when I am not dating. One in particular confuses me. I will call her Loren. She is physically attractive/funny/intelligent/nice/kind etc. We go out sometimes 1 or 2 times a month. If I pay for dinner she pays for the film etc. At the film/theatre...sometimes during the interval she will ask me for a hug...whether or not her friends or colleagues are around. After the visit out to films/theatre etc ..she holds my hand..with fingers entwinded. We are not "shagging" or anything like that. Sometimes she comes over for dinner @ my place or hers we eat /chat/hug watch TV together..normally she lays in my arms & she tells me how much she likes that! Whenever we meet her friends/colleagues etc she introduces me as her "special friend". On a recent birthday....she invited me out with her work colleagues to dinner. I arrived late due to wk....she was happy to see me when I walked into the restuarant, she gave me a big hug & kiss on the cheek and introduced her "special friend" (me) too all her workmates who were present. She held my hand under the table we we wernt eating with fingers entwinded (again) and was cuddling upto me all evening (as usual). The next day she called me & thanked me for coming and advised me that all her wkmates thought I was "FAB" .. and the guys were v jealous of me!! I have never tried anything on as she has a v rich BF who lives aboard. I like her company & we get on really well. She has had many v rich BF's (Millionaires & even one Billioniare) and she tells me that she will only marry a rich guy ( yes sad isnt it?). I never discuss my financial situtaion..but because of my job she is able to roughly work out how much I earn ( not millionaire status :) ) ...if she's interested in me..it should me as a person not my bank bal. After a recent cinema trip, she invited me back to her place & cooked me a nice meal..I was helping her with her CV when she started to coming on to me..kissing my arm..and leaning on me and looking for a kiss on the lips. If I had, I'm sure we would have ended up in the bedroom Shagging. I wanted to but I resisted She is a lovely person but seems to have this one major flaw (MONEY) that I cant deal with..thats why I dont try anything on.. I find it a real turn off. I have told her that in the past and she knows where I stand on moral grounds. Shes not poor or anything like that BTW We are both in our late 30's. Hopefully you can throw some light on this...I am confused!!

“Friends with benefits” doesn’t necessarily mean you are having sex. But now that I know the situation, you guys are more than that. I see that you two do have a romantic attachment to one another. You have a special relationship that goes beyond a friendship. But, there is a boundary to this relationship. You could never officially be her boyfriend or her husband. It might be because of her family, friends, or something personal (Example: She may be required to only be publicly involved with those men who have a certain income/status) that may be behind the fact that she will only make her involvement with rich guys official. So, you guys are very close, your relationship may even evolve into something more, but you will never be the boyfriend or husband. In other words, the highest role you would play in public would be “special friend,” even if you two decide to take your special relationship to another level. Of course, her friends know that special friend is just a word that says you two are involved, just off the record. Now, I don’t know if Loren's boyfriend has a special friend, but it is nothing new for Loren and her friends. To you, it is. You must decide for yourself if you can handle this situation. She has made her terms clear. If you want a more official type of relationship (boyfriend/husband), you need to leave this one because you will get hurt. I want you to think about this. Would you be able to handle being a lover (paramour)? That is the highest role you could play in your relationship with Loren, and it seems that this is what Loren wants. How long do you think you will be able to resist her advances? What if she decides to get married to someone in the future? What would you do then? If you do want this relationship to work out, you need to be aware of the role you play in it, and you have to accept that role for it to work. If you can’t, break it off before you two get more intimate.