I don't know what to do????

me and my partner split up 8 weeks ago with a a child together . we had alot of arguements n hardly spoke hes had my son every saturday night and i was working with his mum who i found to be lying about what things he was doing and basically trying to cause arguements between us for her own etertainment. i have now stopped working with her and 10 minutes after telling her he contacted me and we have are now on talking terms . i asked him to lend me some money on friday for my little boy and ended up in a big arguement with him but he did agree and i told him i would walk up for the money and give it him back on saturday when i dropped his don off but he said he would come meet me at the local park near me . when he got there he gave me much more money than i asked for and even bought me dinner n was like a kid with a new toy around us . he had my son as usual saturday and we met up again yesterday and he mentioned us doing it every week i know hes keeping this a secret from his family and friends and the problem is i love this guy and its making me ill . he hasnt mentioned anything about us getting back together but is giving off mixed signals with what he says and how his mood is when hes around us . im so confused because i dont want to keep meeting him if he doesnt want to try again but i do cause its the only way i can see him . can anyone help

also because i love him obviously if he meets someone its going to crush me .. and if he has no intentions of getting back with me or trying how am i meant to get over him or meet someone else how do i explain to a new partner that i meet my ex in secret so he can spend time with his son.. when he has him on a saturday night anyway when i asked him why he wouldnt tell anyone he just said im keeping boundaries because if we start going places together and everyone thinks we are back to together my family will kick off and they dont need to know my buisness.. but hes 32 if its just because he wants to see his son why cant his family but out ..???

You're ex has a family that is not too accepting of you. If he truly cares about you and your son, he would tell them to shut up whenever they get out of hand. You two have the final say in what goes on, not them. I don’t know whether or not your ex wants to be with you again. Maybe you should ask him where you two stand (I highly recommend talking to him about it!). If you’re ex wants to be with you, he probably doesn’t want to make it public. Would you be okay with that? Most people wouldn’t be. He probably thinks doing things in secret is less stressful, and maybe it is, but if he wants to visit his son, he should just do it. His family may have problems with you, but how he decides to spend time with his son is his business. He didn’t make the child alone. If they have a problem with that then they don’t need to have anything to do with him or the child you share together. About a relationship: If you two had a strong relationship, there would be no need for all of the arguments. Arguments every now and then can actually be helpful to relationships, but if it is easy for you two to get into fights, then I would avoid getting back together with him (especially if he does want to get back with you). Even if most of the arguments you guys had in the past were planned by his mother, it seems that you two easily fall into her trap. If you and your ex-partner had as much stress together as you have indicated, I think it would be best to not be romantically involved. For now, make sure that you’re son is happy and build a more trusting relationship with you’re ex, ok? If he doesn’t want to get back with you: Have joy in the fact that you two share a son. If you can’t have the relationship you want, at least try to make what you can have positive for you, you’re ex, and you’re son. If one of you decides to get with someone else, just let that person know the situation, and go from there. I hope this helps you. TILES

thanks for the advice . the realtionship was a strong realtionship it was just other interfering that caused all the prblems . i think i just want to many answers to soon x

we had an arguement on friday because i texted him and asked if he could lend me some money for our son and he said all i want to do is talk to you saturday when you drop him off and sunday when you pick him up .. then he suddenly calmed down n agreed so i said id walk up and give him the money back saturday he said no ill come meet you at the park . he gave me much more money than i asked to lend bought me dinner and was like a kid with a new toy around us .. thats whats so confusing ?? he acts like he doesnt know what he wants x

He may not know what he wants, or he may want you, but not like it was before (with all the complaining from his family). You may just have to wait and see what happens. I also recommend talking to him about it, to see if you can get some clarity about his feelings.