Confused

I have been married to my husband for almost 11 years. 3 weeks ago, he gave me the story about how he loves me, but isn't "in love" with me. He didn't want to tell anyone (friends or family) because my daughter is pregnant (high risk) and is due in January until after the baby comes. My daughter and I are very close and she already knew he had been acting strange. The problem is, he wants to continue living together, going out with friends, etc. as if we are some "happy couple". I love him with all my heart. I sold my home & moved 700 miles to be with him and help him finish raise his 2 children from a previous mariage that he had custody of. My 1 daughter was 17 at the time, and came with me, my other 2 live where I used to, so I have only gotten to see them & their children 1-2 a year for 11 years. We sleep in the same bed, but no physical contact, he still expects me to cook, clean, and do laundry. He refuses to go for counceling. Does anyone have any ideas or suggestions? I am at a total loss here

He just turned 50, I am 57. I know she knows & I even told him that she knows, He wants to continue this act of "happy couple" until the baby comes, I don't know why. He knows I will be returning to TN. My daughter & son-in-law wanted to sell their house and go back too. The non intimacy has been going on for a couple months. As far as a girlfriend goes, who knows. If he has one he doesn't seem to anxious to move forward with her if he wants to keep going like this till the end of January