The break up

Me and my ex broke up a month ago, it ended nicely and it was mutual, now when this happened I went on holiday 4 days after, I spent two weeks away with hardly any contact from my ex, but I would get the occasional message from him to see if I was ok, then when I came back from holiday he says that our break up was a mistake he still loves me and realised that I'm special, but he's not sure if we should get back together, confused? Yes I am too. Now after he says this we decided to keep talking and stay how we are, we met up and had a lovely day together. The next day he messages me saying that he's met someone else and he doesn't see us getting back together, I'm obviously heart broken and confused hearing this but I don't let that ruin the friendship we have built. We then meet up again a couple of days later, we were sitting on the beach and he puts his arm around me and starts being very touchy and loving towards me, again this is very confusing to me, so I ask him what he's doing, he says I look amazing and he wanted to give me a hug. We talk about this girl he's seeing and he says it's not working out and the reason is you. So the next day he message me saying he wants to take things step by step one day at a time and spend time with each other again, he's told this girl that it's not working out with them, but he's still messaging her to see how she is, am I an idiot for even wanting him back? What do I do to get him to see that it's me he wants? Could I have a mans perspective on this please.

You need to ask yourself why you broke up in the first place. Find out the real reason for this and you will discover the real reason for your BF's confusing actions. It's all OK for him to say that you are special but it's the way he treats you(his actions)which tells you just how special you really are. While you state that it's you that he really wants, you need to determine if you actually need him? If this man really needed and wanted you, why would he would he fail to keep your heart safe and fail to respect you and your emotions?