Becoming like my dad

I’m 16 years old and recently have been noticing just how much I’m turning into my dad and it’s absolutely driving me insane! It is getting to an unhealthy point where it is just stressful for me to be around him and observe how much I am like him. Our relationship is fine though. The biggest thing that is really bothering me is how I talk just like him. (A couple of his habits I have gotten I would like to get rid of too.) I guess it is really my personality but the majority of it is the social aspect. I know it is ridiculous to try to remake my entire personality, but I’d like to start deviating myself from the similarities that bother me and be more unique myself, (rather than like him.), a little at a time. I always admire the way the way my friends talk but with me and my dad it is just not quite there. As if it doesn’t define itself as one of the styles that different people usually use. The variation in tones that he uses while he talks (and I use) just doesn’t flow together or something. (Now you probably think I’m crazy right now because after I just re-read that I started to question about my mental state…) but that is the truth and I can’t think of a better way to say it but I think you understand. The other part of it I don’t like is how high pitched his voice is, but that is something I can change. (I’d just want to deepen my voice more so it can sound a little more… I guess manly? Lol) How can I start varying myself from him? You can reply saying that it is inevitable or something I shouldn’t really worry about because I can’t change it or something like that, but you won’t be able to convince me. After reading a little online apparently that is the way all people my age are and they grow out of it later, but for now I just want to change it. It will at least make me feel better and more individualistic. It will give me security that I can determine who I am and not necessarily fate, genetics, whatever. Another part of it I guess would be to compete with my dad to become a better individual. Not necessarily to out-do him or make it a competition but I just want to be more than he has become. Maybe that’s why I don’t want to feel like I’m become like him. Anyway, I’m getting off topic. The best approach I can think of is to start interacting more with my friends and imitating them. (and keeping an aware mind that I do not want to become like my father so the sub-conscious part of me will at least have that in there?) Any feedback is appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read this.

You are not your father, and you never will be. You are you, no matter who you resemble. How are you most comfortable (this is what matters)? You determine who you want to be. If you do have traits like your father that you don’t like, you can improve on them. Think about the things you like about yourself and how they can compensate for what you feel are your weaknesses. Are there any great qualities about your father? Is there something you like about him? What about your mom? Are there other people you resemble? If you like something about others that you would like to adapt as part of your personality, that is okay, as long as you don’t neglect who you are now. Define who you are and who you want to be, and go from there. Even if you are like your father in some ways, you could never become your father, so you shouldn’t hate how you resemble him. Just be yourself and strive to be your best. TILES

alright thanks.