Help! I'm being haunted by a memory!

About a year and a half ago I dated a guy ONCE. He convinced me to sleep over at his place after dinner, which I did, but despite his efforts we didn't have sex. The next morning he was nice and cuddly, even walked me out to my car in the parking lot across the street and kissed me goodbye... and I haven't heard from him since. That's not the problem here though. The problem is I've been having these incredibly intense dreams about him for the past three months. The dreams are not sexual... not overtly anyways. I just wake up every morning thinking about this guy and I'm tired of his memory harassing me. What the hell can I do to stop dreaming about him? I'm not obsessed with him in real life. I probably don't have any closure since I have no idea why he just cut the contact so abruptly, but it's been over a year for god's sake, shouldn't I be dreaming about other stuff?!? Can anyone help with any advice?

I think you are dreaming about the guy because somewhere (maybe subconsciously), you feel like something isn't resolved. Maybe you thought you missed an opportunity...How is your life now? That may have something to do with it. Maybe you feel like you need more support in an area of your life. Maybe you are using him to represent something in your dreams (it may have nothing to do with him). Think about your dreams and see if they have a certain pattern about them. You can have dreams about anyone, and what you think and feel play a role in that. You may also need closure with this somehow, because even though you dated him once, he may have played a special role in your life, even for just a moment. Let me know if my advice helps your situation. TILES