To stay together?

My husband and I have been together 18 years. We got married really young. We have kids. Things were ok I thought then two years ago he got emotionally involved with a family friend. They weren't physical but it still broke my heart. I was angry and things were pretty bad between us for a while. My husband is now telling me (and has been on and off for a year) that he's struggling with his feelings for me and doesn't know if he can fall back in love with me. He fell in love with her and between that and the way I treated him after, he says he just doesn't feel the same for me anymore and isn't sure he ever can. But if I ask him about divorce, he'll say, no I don't think so, I don't think that's what I want. I think it's mostly because he feels guilty. I don't want a divorce either, I think it's a really crummy thing to do to our kids and we'll always have to deal with eachother because of the kids. I think deep down he loves me. And I love him. But ..I guess what I'm wondering.. is it normal to 'fall out of love' with your spouse for a long period of time, like 2 years, and has anyone experienced that but then been able to put things back together and make it work?

Yes you can "Fall out of love" its normal. Especially if hes admitted in loving another woman. Maybe you both need time apart and test to see if you both strongly love each other or not. Dont do it for your kids, hanging on to a dead relationship can cause harm to your kids in the future. Best of luck. X

I'm in the same boat, my wife of 10 years and partner of 17, I was 20 and she was 17, 2 kids, 8and 9, has fallen out of love after a few months of arguing, she says it's actually been coming for a couple of years, I never realized, I'm interested in people's response to you and wish you all the best, I've tried so hard to get things right but I just can't work out the best thing to do,space apparently is what she wants but I know every situations different, hopefully jointly we can get some answers all the best,