Emotional advice

Im a 23 year old lesbian & i've been with my 34 year old gf for almost 4 years. I have two children of my own & she has 5 but only 4 live with us. I constanty feel overwhelmed & unappreciated because there are so many kids & im usually home with them by myself because my gf goes to school & im left takin care of everybody else & nobody is makin sure im taken care of. Aside from that my gf is like a drill sargeant when she is home with the kids & while her kids might be used to it mines are not & they have been unhappy in this situation for a long time. We often argue alot about almost everything because we have totally differeny views.....but she feels like since she is older I should basically jump on board with how she thinks & I dont agree with that at all!! For the past year we have been broken up but living together which has further made things complicated. Recently we have tried to make a mends of things & try to make the best of things but it seems like everytime we try to have an indepth conversation we end up arguing because our views are so different. Im ready to be happy again but im not sure I can be that with her. I love her alot, im not in love with her anymore & my kids are unhappy......i dnt wanna constantly feel this way & on top of that feel like im neglecting the my kids' feelings. It took alot for me to even do this so I would greatly appreciate any advice given. Thanx

You and your kids have been unhappy for sometime now. And your emotional connection to her will probably never be what it used to be, especially since your needs are being looked over. Your opinion should be respected, even though it may not be the same as hers. You don't have to agree about everything, but at the same time, both of you should be able to talk to each other and feel comfortable doing so. I suggest that you end the relationship.