Why he has possibly decided to do this?

Hi, my name is Sarah and i'm dealing with a dilemma at this time. It all starts back say a year ago--possibly more--when this guy and i developed a strong friendship, always goofing off and listening to each other and i guess doing what best friends do. In the beginning (kinda easing into it) of it all, he told me he had a girlfriend (i didn't have a problem with that at all) and i figured out she was jealous of me for some odd reason. I've always wondered why she's had it out for me from the start. I never hit on her boyfriend because i'm not that kind of a person to do that. It's just not in me. It was one day when he typed telling me we no longer could talk and communicate in any way. I, of course, went ballistic because we got to grow so much in the friendship and it was all going down hill. I asked for the reasons and he never said so until i prodded, "It's because she told you to, right"? And he said something to this effect, "Yes." So then a month passed by and we started talking regularly as if nothing ever happened. As if we never separated from talking. Several months went by and there was this time where i was punished and i told him i couldn't get on to talk to him for a whole week and then that was that. I came back saying stuff about his sites and started talking to him when he wasn't on + offline, but i knew he'd reply to 'em as he always did. Days went by when he never did reply to those comments i wrote to him when i came back from my punishment ( which was unusual knowing him) and he never did sign on, which was extremely strange! Weeks went by and still nothing from him. So i sent another message not asking where he was, but requested he should watch this insanely hilarious video and still NO RESPOND. I got really angry now 'cause it'd been over 3 weeks. What i want to know: could it be that his girlfriend told him to stay away from me and not even bother telling her you're going to stop talking to me OR pressure him by saying if you don't stop talking to her, i won't be your gf anymore? It has been over a month now and i stopped counting because i couldn't keep track anymore.. I'm sad-hearted to be writing about all this. We were the best of pals for over a year and just like that it's possibly all gone? Is his girlfriend so insecure and threatened that she has to ruin a good relationship? I understand that's his girlfriend, but why doesn't he stand up to her. Because from the talks, you can instantly tell he undoubtedly liked me and he never would miss a moment to talk to me and every time i talked about something he'd be extra tentative in what i had to say. YOu Just could tell in the guy. Anybody have any hypothesis to my problem..? It'd be much appreciated! I just want other feedbacks to get me thinking really.

He made his choice. If he did not break up with his girlfriend for his friendship with you, then you have your answer. I would still write to him though, just say "Are you okay? I just want you to tell me, I will leave you alone if you want me to." If he doesn't respond to that, then either he promised his gf he wouldn't talk to you and is sticking to it or something else is wrong. Do you know anyone that he knows (friends, siblings) that could let you know if he is ok?

But i feel if i do write to him asking if he's doing all right then he'll reject me even more. I mean people run away from you when you keep bothering with them and keep messaging them. I'd probably seem like a pest seeing as Iv'e already messaged him about 3 times + still nothing. And i know he's not sick or in any kind of danger 'cause he's got this youtube channel and i checked on there over a week ago and it said he was on no longer than 5 hours and so he comes on regularly. It's as if he's giving me the cold shoulder and ignoring me. I don't know why. There's no reason under the sun why. We were so much in liking with each other, but i didn't take that in the wrong way. We were just friends. I'm telling the absolute truth! And no, he wasn't real open about his friends and that. I did know his sister, but not so close that i could call her and ask what's up and going on with him. Not that kind of a relationship.

I'm glad you mentioned the youtube channel to me, because I wasn't sure if he was ignoring you or if something else had happened...I think not messaging him for a while is a good idea. If he is ignoring you, which seems very likely at this point, I think he should have told you what he was planning to do before he started doing it. If you do feel like sending him a message in the future, do so after a few weeks. Then, if he doesn't answer you, don't message him anymore until he does because he shouldn't treat a friend like that.

Haha. I've felt like message him sooner than that, but i knew i had to hold back. I'll take everything you said into consideration. I just want to thank you for taking a real concern and the time to read my story. You don't know how much this has helped me! I really do feel a whole lot better after reading on what you had to say about it all. Merry Christmas and you have a splendid day!

You too! Take care!