I have made my wife numb to our marriage

I really had no idea I was making my wife numb. 20 plus years We have three kids and one grandkid. I am the type of person that when something bothers me I just shut down as not to hurt anyone, but when she would come to me and ask for some comfort or for companionship I would do as little as possible or nothing at all. Well this is a blooming nightmare now as she has become me and I am at a loss for what to do. We got into a big argument and I said things that I will never be able to take back. She told me that I have hate towards myself and take it out on those around me. I had no idea, I always thought I was doing the right thing and dealing with my problems. This woman is the love of my life, there will never be another! I will not remarry ( hence be alone) till I die. There is a lot more but I am not sure how much to say here I try talking try being there try whatever I can and all it seems to do is drive her futher away. The one thing she has said is that I have made her numb and she needs time to process. I just want to move past this and start again. I am trying and now I am waiting a call from a therapist. I guess I am trying to figure out if I should stay or go and let God work it out. The last child we have is 11.

I would really love to speak with you about this

I have been married for 21 years and I'm doing stupid stuff Help

RAIZINMOON are you there

Yes I am here

I went and saw a therapist today and realized that what she told me today I knew most of it. The thing that I never knew was I have abandonment issues from my childhood. And being unemployed does not help right now either....

Even I have a similar problem. I and husband try not to hurt one another but all efforts fail.we get tired of speaking about the problem, my husband don't want to talk about problems at all,it worries me a lot,I feel I am going to lose him. Please help

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KLOUIS, If you haven't yet, and still want help, you need to start your own thread, okay?