Wife rejecting me for 14 years, what to do?

Been married for 24 years - have four kids. For the last fourteen years my wife has not returned any of my affections - won't even kiss or cuddle me. Every few months I have raised the issue and suggested counselling but she just says "she won't know what to say to a counsellor". About nine months ago she said "it's because you've put on some weight" - and I then quickly lost two stone (to my original weigh of 11st) but this has made no difference. She has since said she is no longer in love with me and just wants to be friends. However, I really can't face the next 24 years of my life being in a relationship where only one party wants love, romance etc.. and the other party doesn't. And, of course, there is the issue of my beautiful kids. I don't want to leave them. As such, I can't see a way through my conundrum - hence my post here.

The reality is that you don't have a marriage. Even though you two are married, the marriage part is no longer there. It is as though you two are roommates or you have an arrangement that has established terms. How is that healthy for the kids? Even if you are living in a different household from your kids, that does not mean that you love them any less or that the times you will share with them in the future when will be less loving. In fact, the happier you and your wife are, the better it is for the children. If you don't want to divorce her right away or if you think that there is still a chance for the marriage to rebuild, you could have a trial separation, see how things go, and go from there.

This my personal opinion. I don't think it's good idea to even consider divorce or separation even for awhile. Rather I'd say, don't give up. Do whatever it takes. We hv to be 1st honest to ourselves if there is in any possibility that may have hurt the other person or done something that the other person dislike. If not then to ask ourselves how much we have done. How much we have tried. To what extent. 1st is communication. Find out since when and why she lost the feeling, and talk it over. When proper communication starts I think that is already 1 breakthrough. Find out in the first place what made her love you. Also it is important for us to know that feelings come, feelings go. We can't just rely on our feelings. Hope you can find a way to let her realize. But no matter what I dont think it's worthy giving in. Try & try harder even doing all you can to win her heart back. I believe sincerity will pay off. I respect you for loosing weight for her. I know it must have been tough. It is still good to see counsellor on your own at least if you can't convince her. I think it will still be helpful.