Why do men watch porn?

My husband and I have been together for 10 years. The last two years our sex life has kinda dwindled. I have to admit I was creeping on his computer and found a bunch of porn sites that he has been watching. It seems that every time I leave the house he is playing with himself. I'm concerned because he seems to not be interested in me anymore even though he says he loves me. How can I approach him about it? It bugs the hell out of me that he would rather play with himself than have sex with me.

Sorry to hear that the sex has dwindled. After 10 years not surprising, 13 years here, and my wife no longer is interested. Anyway, for a guy to watch porn should be pretty much expected. Don't take it personally at all. Many of us love porn, even with a great sex life. Perhaps find out what kinds of things are turning him on, when you do get cuddly, and build on that. Or perhaps watch porn with him, my wife does some times; well, did. Good luck.

I am in the same boat. I have exactly the same problem but after 4 years of relationship. and when i found out, i got really upset. it messed up everything for me. now i feel i can't trust him and indeed, i don't understand , why he would rather do that than sleep with me. i have a high sex drive but now i'm being pushed away month after month. i wonder if there are any men out there that don't need to do that??? what really gets to me its the seediness of doing it behind my back. we argue about it and he doesn't care about the fact that it hurts, but says that is normal!! well if is normal why he doesn't do it in front of me??? how can it be normal to know week after week that your gf wants to make love, but just ignore her endlessly??