Should I stay in a sexless relationship?

My Fiancé and I have been together for 4 years (friends for much longer) We have a son who just turned two. The first year of our relationship we had an amazing sex life. When I became pregnant the sex came to a screeching halt. I tried not to focus on it and just chalked it up to me being pregnant and maybe he felt weird about it. I stayed extremly small during my pregnacy, it literally looked like I had a basketball stuffed under my shirt. After I had the baby he still showed no interest. I lost all my baby weight very quickly because of how insecure he made me feel. I have no stretch marks... And I try to stay in shape and look like I did before I had our son. So, the first year of my childs life we had sex 11 times... The second year we had sex six times. I've cried to him, I've expressed how it has made me feel and the stress its put on our relationship. I feel like we are cold ...... But on the other hand he is my best friend, we have an amazing relationship other than the sex. We spend every free minute together.... But are we stuck in the friend zone? Please be kind with your responses, I'm not looking for unwarranted ignorant rants. Thanks! -Melony

Seriously tough to say, as everything is relative in the human heart and mind. Perhaps he doesn't feel a "Friend Zone" conflict exists due to a lack of sex. And no one here could really have a bearing on your feelings, as it's up to you how important sex is in your relationship. But whatever his hang-up may be, it seems strange that it would continue being about the baby/pregnancy at this point. Has he confided any reason as to his lack of sexual appetite? Actually, first question should be is that has his sexual appetite diminished in the first place? Is there evidence of masturbation? Humor or discussions with others of sexual nature? Pornography? Y'know, not to stir suspicions and encourage you to hunt through his life, but should signs occur in natural settings, it's worth discussing at some point if they're consistent.

You say you spend every free minute together, thats not good. It maybe that he finds sex exhausting and had hoped that once you had a child together, that you would focus on being a mother and forget about sex. Many women have no idea how exhausting sex is for the man, most of us would rather have a good night sleep.