When did we get here

On the verge of a break up my live in boyfriend and I are drowing in issues nd neither one knws where to begin. We have trust issues. We have his family and friends that assume they have to voice their opinion in our relationship.Its them nd him againsts me. Recently he gets a text on his phone at 3 am. I asked who and right away he has an issue with me asking so he answers vry cold and short. by this time im with my how dare u act like theres no reason why i wld b asking. He says im always gna bring the past up. I say hw can i let it go if u keep reinacting it. If he dosent stop giving me attitude like he dosent need to explain to me then i will b forced to remindv him. Of his lyin cheating ways. He has this best friend that he allows to cause a strain on us. He partakes in activity with his friend that is only possiable if he lies to me. Which ge thinks about and makes the decision that its a price he wld like to pay. On top of hw it happens so much tht its like clock work. Every 4 to 5 days the stale act of msking up a reason to fight to leave. Stay gone for 2 or 3 days along with ignoring me completely. Leavng me hm to just there and say. Wht just happened. Everytime. Only for him to come hm and say im sry make the usual broken promises only to do it again in a few days. Of course i let him bk.. I love him and i havent given up on us. He cleraly has cuz he keeps doin wht he dose over again. Thats one problem. Any thoughts?

You need to choose a partner who shares your values and standards and who will respect you just as you are. Of course you have a right to ask your live in BF of what and who when he gets a sms at 3 in the morning. You also have the right to choose what's best for you in this situation because you getting nothing in return from your BF, other than unhappiness, going by your post. If he is a lying, cheating man, then you need to make up your mind about what you love about him and then weigh it all up against what and who you need to be happy. This guy will just continue to do what he is doing simply because you allow him to do it. When you finally get around to making a stand and say enough, then you will finally be able to get on with your life without the stress and misery of being used and abused.