I'm just at a loss

guess i should start with the basics, I’ll start off with i am a lesbian and in a relationship since last November. Everything was going great up until about 2 months ago, when my gf’s ex’s (who mind you has cased us NOTHING but problems constantly talking crap, keyed my car, makes sure she causes some sort of drama anytime we see her out, since we got together) mother passed away && she called on my gf, Of course i told her to go be there for her, after all they had been friends for years before their relationship ( I’m not the type of person to EVER tell someone what to do, and death is as everyone knows something awful to deal with) I even when as far as sending my condolences to the ex who responded with “you’re a F**ked up person” i let it go, her mom just died… right? i mean its not like i just told my gf it was fine for her to go be there for her, you know the female that has made our lives hell for idk the last year? well over the past month and a half or so, my gf has stopped texting me throughout the day, and when she’s here she is on her phone.. and for the most part ignoring me… her ex, tells her she’s going to “whoop my ass” (bc god knows we are all kids apparently) and is always telling her how she is still in love with her, and my gf does NOTHING to defend me or our relationship now mind you if i even talk to an ex.. she acts like i just went out made a sex tape and sent it to her. I don’t even know what I’m doing here, I’m so beyond lost.

You need to share your life with people who basically mirror your values and come up to your standards. It's a waste of time being with someone who isn't 'on your page' and someone who belittles your relationship together with their actions. If your relationship isn't about honesty, loyalty, respect and love then don't go there...it's that simple.

It sounds like you're the only fighting for this relationship? If that's the case, you may want to ask yourself why you're staying with someone that continually disrespects you and the relationship. It's hard when the heart wants someone that may not be good for us. There's no easy way to navigate this or make a decision. Only you know what's right for you. But it sounds like it's time for you to ask yourself what IS right for you, and what isn't. And take steps towards the things and people that are good for you, and let the rest fall away. Best of luck. Hope you find your way to some happiness. <3

* only ONE fighting for this relationship