I must be weird

Hello. I have a strange obsession for many years and I'm not sure this is the place to discuss this but I have a unhealthy fantasy of my wife sleeping with other men! She doesn't like it and I can't say I blame her to be honest she hasn't ever done it and doesn't want to. I love her and want to stop thinking about it. Am I going mad? I feel ashamed of myself.

Christopher Ryan is the author of the book sex at dawn. http://chrisryanphd.com having this fantasy could devastate your marriage Be careful and do alot of reading about it to know the circumstances.

BTW you're not alone and this is not uncommon by any means. Some call it cuckolding others call it voyeurism. It's probably best for the sake of your marriage to get it out of your mind. I know it's hard to but you have to try. I could elaborate but let's hear what you have to say

Here is a possible explaination that might let you shift your focus. To understand this, start with the idea that people do things for the people they love. That's true, but people will do things at times for an attractive person, a person that turns them on, a precieved leader, etc. Subconsiously you may be thinking that your wife would do more for some men than she would for you. Some men may even feel like a big endowment would wow her and make herputty in the guys hands. So, for some men your fantasy may be a way to maketheir wife a bit more wild and he might even benefit from that. What they want is a more varied sex life. If something like that rings a bell, you need to change your focus. If you want another guy to step in an do something you don't think you could do, make yourself that guy. Make your relationship one where she would do anything for you.