2way griping, why am I now the griper!?
How is it considered griping when you listen to your partner griping, give feed back to let them know your listening, but when you ask a couple questions, voice your opinion of the circumstance only to be answered with subject changes which in turn upset you!? Now I gave the respect to listen to my partners griping, why wasn't same respect given? Now 2 hrs later , still in silence except for our good nights.Now I don't want to sleep In the bed, is that to much? Should I give in and let go feeling my voice was not heard? Looking for questions and opinions
Gripe? Whine? Bitch? Complain? Express feelings?
Which one is it? You want to be heard!!
There is an art to what you may call arguing - but really mean getting things settled constructively.
But some couples need to learn methods for how to do that so that all parties feel heard and can express themselves in a safe place. A counselor's office might be one place. I have heard good results from marriage encounter weekends, too.
Google books on relationships (how to settle conflicts), find a marriage encounter weekend, seek counseling.
But don't "swallow" your frustration. You NEED to be heard!