What is he thinking? He says he loves me but actions speak differently

I have been married for 3 years I am in my mid 50's In the short time we have been married he has "carried on" with a woman that lives out of state. The was lots of sexting and explicit photos sent on pretty much a daily basis. When I let him know I didn't like it he chose to continue but just hid it better. A few months ago I was out of town and found out she was in my town while I was gone. He claims he never saw her when she was here which I completely think is a lie. Since then he has cut off all ties with her. But started talking to an "Ex" trying to get her to send pictures and stuff but she didn't take the bait. My other issue is my husband has a definite problem with being overly "handsy" when he gets drunk. At different times he has grabbed 2 of my adult nieces asses - again while he was drunk Now my family has informed me no one wants to be around him for any reason and he is not welcome at family events. This is an "in a nutshell" account of what I want to talk about. I'm happy to hear from anyone and answer questions you may have to clarify the story.

Luv hes horrible. Leave him. He will not change. You deserve better. He doesnt respect you. Leave him for good.

Absolutely, time for divorce court EXPLORER this man is definitely not for you.