However, my parents are extremely paranoid/over protective and as a child I was never allowed to attend sleepovers, parties, concerts, or even go on trips without a chaperone. My mom wouldn't even let me go to a baseball game with my 27 year old sister because "I could get abducted or a terrorist could shoot up the stadium." I am almost 19 and I have never even had a relationship before, because my parents are so intrusive and they have created this feeling that I shouldn't even date until I'm 30. When I first got to college I struggled terribly because I had none of the same experiences as other people my age, not to mention trying to have an actual relationship.
My hope was that after I got to college my parents would loosen the reins and understand that I'm an adult and can now make my own decisions. Unfortunately, that hasn't happened. They insist on tracking my phone, my mom gets extremely upset when I don't want her looking through my pictures and texts, and when I try to let them know where I'm going in the attempt to be transparent, they tell me it's not safe and I can't go. For example, a very good (gay) guy friend of mine drove up over spring to my hometown and wanted to go to the Dallas Arboretum with me. My parents just about had a heart attack when I told them my plans and they refused to let me go.
I love my parents to death, but this is absolutely out of hand and I have given them zero reasons to be this concerned. I want to have a social life, I want to make mistakes and grow as a person, and I want to have the freedom to live my own life without the constant commentary on how "I'm not doing it right." Every time I try to explain this to them, they tell me they are "older and wiser," and thus know more than me so I should just listen and play the dutiful daughter. When I actually do something that goes against their ideals, they leverage everything they have given me over my head so that I'm forced to toe the line. My parents have absolutely no qualms about taking everything I love in this world away from me, including my education. I have no idea how to make them understand that I NEED to be a normal kid and have the college experience without them taking everything away from me as a consequence of my "insubordinance."
I guess my question would be, I how would you approach this situation? I refuse to keep living like a hermit, but I know the consequences will be severe if I openly disobey them, as they are paying for my education.
What to do about controlling / over-protective parents?
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