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Alright, the basics of my story is that I dated a guy for a year and a half. During that year and a half, he became my very best friend, the person I lost my virginity to, and somebody I came to love and care for immensely. We broke up three weeks ago, because the last month and a half of our relationship, we began to become too comfortable and set in our ways. We, at the time, were both incredibly stressed out people (particularly me, but the last week or so, it was definitely him). We agreed that it was mutual and that we still wanted to be in each other's lives in someway, because although we still very much cared for one another, it was simply not working right then. He began to have doubts about wanting to be in a relationship, and I did not want to be led on or dragged around, so we broke it off. He was VERY upset, as was I, but we both knew it had to happen for now. We both mentioned that we didn't want the break up to be permanent. The two days after it happened, he texted me to remind me to take a daily pill like always, and although it was awkward, we briefly chatted about each other's days and went our separate ways within about 15 minutes. We had a break in the school year for about a week after that week, and he texted me a couple days in a row until I politely asked him if we could take a break from texting right now, that I still wanted to wave and say hi, but that it was becoming hard for me to adjust to the new situation with him still trying to be in my life so soon. He understood and agreed and has stopped texting me completely, like I asked. However, he also pretends not to see me in the halls and in rooms we happen to both be in, and it's starting to grate on my nerves. God knows I love the guy, but really? A year and a half of dating and you can't even pick up your hand and make some eye contact for a second? Really? But anyways. My problem is that for the past week, I have been totally and completely torn. Some days I feel sure that we are going to get back together, and that I should reach out to him, and others I feel as though we'll never be the same again. I don't know whether to give up and move on or try to renew this. I am very, however quietly, upset about what's happened and I know that at SOME point he was, as well. I totally agree that we needed a break, but it's driving me positively nuts not to know what he wants from us in the future. Friends? More? Less? I don't know. It seems irrational that we'd never be parts of each other's lives in someway anymore. We had an extremely close relationship. I'm so confused! Please help. Thanks.

So totally torn

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Hey,I'm sorry that your unhappy but this things usually happen.Friendship is an incredible thing but it takes way more than willpower to keep it going.Even though millions have refused to accept,the fact is that if there is one thing that can really send a negative vibe to a relationship or friendship,it's having sex before marriage.Truthfully,guys always say that it doesn't change a thing but the truth is whether they know it or not,it does but of course it still about the females choice. A beautiful friendship flows naturally went it started on the right track,you don't have to stress it or force.I don't know if you are Christian but one thing is for sure,friendship between people who are truly saved and live a good life,Hardly ever breaks up because they tend to do what is right. Concerning this guy I think you should go to him,sit him down and talk about the situation.Hear what he has to say and make he puts it in plain straight English so that you don't misunderstand anything.When he does,no matter what he says,control yourself.Keep calm even if you want explode,remember that calmness is one of the strongest weapons in the world.When get his reply and if you are willing to trust my advice,contact me @ http://www.fourwhitewalls.dinstudio.com/ and leave me a message telling we what he said and I'll we'll take it from there.Or here is my email address [e-mail address removed]ember,it never as bad as it seems as long as your are still breathing.Looking forward to your reply.

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