Shall I leave him?

I hav been with a very lovely man for 4 years now and he really treats me well, he left all his family and friends to be with me and at times really makes me feel feel special. The problem is i know i dont love him and never have done, before it wouldnt bother me because we are very good friends and both hate being lonely and i know 100% that he loves me as his always telling me but just lately ive fallen head over heels in love with a guy from work and even tho he is taken and doesnt want me it has made me question what me and my fella have. I have never gone weak at my knees for my boyfriend even tho i really want to and sometimes i dont even like it when he touches me and even at times refuse sex. My friends and family tell me to leave him so we can both et on with our lives but i really dont want to hurt him, i have been hurt before and i know how it feels. I could just stay with him feeling like this just to make him happy, but my thoughts are never about him. I dream of marriage and children and he does as well, but i cant bring myself to have children in a relationship i feel has no future. So why can i not leave him? what do i do? i really cant bare the thought of hurting him not when his traveled so far to be with me. help me, i really need some advice. x

honestly, u must end it, u must sit down one-to-one and talk about this, u have to tell him you feel this way. relationships never work when there is lack of communication. You might b surprised and realise how much he means to you. Is it worth staying in a relationship your not happy with jus bcoz ur scared of hurting them? he will be even more hurt in the long run.

i agree with all that lei is sayin, i found out my boyfriend of 6 years has never loved me (well he said he loved me but not in the way i wanted) and i will never forgive him, i feel like 6 years of my life has gone thanks to him, i think your being unfair on his depart, his soulmate could be waiting for him right now and ur stopping him being truely loved!

Sassy your being to harsh! the poor girl needs help not to be yelled at! I have been married for 35 years and i am very much in love, we have love, respect, and trust i our relationship, without them we would not have a relationship - and a great sex life still. What you need to question is do you love him and are you just bored and in need of some excitment??? you say he treats you well and makes you feel special, if you know 100% that he is not the one for you then you need to sit down and talk about it, work it out, for all you know he just may feel the same as you but scared to let you get hurt again. Lei is right, there is no relationship with no communication.

but does love really exsist or have i just watched to many romantic movies? i dont feel nothing, not even a spark!!!!!!!!!

Yeah i think that love excists and i believe that when you meet the right person you just know. People don't often get that 'spark' so when you find it you must keep it. I think it would be best to talk things over with your partner and go from there.

Maybe u have watched to many rom coms!

Yes, love does exist you just have to know where to look. Once you have found it you will know, its not just as easy as that tho you really have to work hard to make a relationship work. Give and take. The 'spark' that people get dont stay forever but it is there at the begining then you get even stronger feelings, thats my views anyway and ive been married for some time and im were happy.

I understant but the more you stay with him the more he is going to be hurts.. Its better if you end the relationship sooner THAN later.. please keep as posted!xxx