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Confused over 2 year situationship

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Hi everyone, I really need help with my situationship cause all my friends don’t want me to talk about this anymore. In Sep 2021 I met this guy at the gym and we started hanging out. We didn’t really like each other and we both started dating other people. I moved abroad in Jan 2022 and right before moving, we both realised we were starting to like each orher. He started dating someone else as I was abroad. In June 2022,I came back to my home country, I was single and he had just broken up with the girl he was dating at the time. We started dating cause we really liked each other. We saw each other every day from June 2022 to Sep 2022. Then in Sep 2022, I moved again abroad and we both decided we didn’t want to have a long distance relationship because we didn’t like the idea of it and we were young (20). We decided we were gonna stop talking eventually one dat but we never stopped until now, in 2024. In these 2 years, we have been talking every day, videocalling and met every time I was going back to my home country, so every 2 months more or less. He even came to visit me once. However, we never took the courage to put a label on this situationship. I have dated other people while still in a situationship with him and he did too. However, I’ve reached a point now where I don’t know if this situation is doing more harm than good. The main reason of not wanting to commit in a LDR is because I plan to move to other countries and travel after my graduation, while he wants to stay forever in our home country. None of us have the courage to call this off because of our deep connection. Please someone give me advice. I’m desperate.

Confused over 2 year situationship

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If the connection really is deep and you want to have a full romantic relationship, you will need to open a conversation about compromise. But from what I understand you've both given your time to other people during this situationship. A close relationship doesn't always have to be romantic! It would be a jarring change but with my experience in long distance the connection is there without physical contact and can be maintained even after big changes. I hope I'm grasping the concept enough to give a little advice and that things work out for you. But be sure to stay true to yourself and pursue your passions even if it includes travel. Peace and love

Confused over 2 year situationship

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Prioritize your own happiness and mental health. Take some time to reflect on what you truly want and need from a relationship. Consider whether this situationship is fulfilling those needs or if it's causing more harm than good.

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