Self-confidence

I have low-self esteem and slowly it has gotten better. Lately, I just feel like no one likes me. For example, there is a group chat for college and when I ask questions they do not answer them or they dismiss what I have to say. I have been trying to get a job and it feels like they do not like me. I do not know if I am not well presented or if I say or do something that makes them dislike me. If they dislike me I do not want to care but I do. And if they do like me, I want to stop thinking that they don't.

Hi Hellokajdhxk, Just to give you the heads-up on how the forum works (because you're probably used to places like Quora). Unless the thread's issues aren't whatsoever connected (which yours are), you're supposed to stick to the one thread for discussing all associated elements and off-shoots (see Lily31's thread, Parents Split Up as an exemplar). Please don't start another new one or it'll have to be deleted; stay on this one now, and meanwhile I'll post in the links to your prior 3 threads so that readers/respondents can see your entire picture and associated, influential factors. (Plus, obviously, you're supposed to reply before the timer runs out, in order to keep your thread open and active.) Cheers. :) 1. https://www.peoplesproblems.org/showtopic/13039/frustrated-with-my-life 2. https://www.peoplesproblems.org/showtopic/13325/i-think-i-have-mentally-checked-out 3. https://www.peoplesproblems.org/showtopic/13439/dont-know-if-i-made-the-right-decision Other than that - please do keep on trucking. If/when I find time, I'll see if I can chip in.

PS: I like you. So up theirs! Just for now: they sound like emotional bullies with fake superiority complexes to me (which is mad when in these cases they're actually not even fit to lick someone of your calibre's BOOTS). Happens to everyone, any nice human is prey. I suspect you've been accepting or been being drawn to people from your 'uncomfortable comfort-zone', sticking to the types you know from growing-up, despite now that you're more sophisticated a being (adult), you can SEE how needlessly nasty, weird and, quite frankly, back-to-front and up-side down their thinking and attitudes are. Without even realising (although you're evidently starting to), you can be SURROUNDED by narcissists of whatever variety, meaning, you have to unlearn the habit of going for 'your usual dish' and try something new. But you'll have to heal first. These types wound you which leaves a scent for OTHER bullies to lure you you to them, including narcissistic places of work. Is this making sense?

...or equally you could call it 'comfortable discomfort-zone' - either/or. But you can't change your type until you know what your type IS/WAS. So have you tried googling Narcissistic Friends, or, - Employers/places of work? If not - be prepared to fall off your chair. (But don't worry - this place is plushly carpeted.)