Classmate sticks her tongue out, rubs her tongue, and licks lid

My classmate always does weird things with her tongue. She often sticks her tongue out, showing the smooth polkadotted light pink surface of her tongue and the shiny pink edges of her tongue. I could also see the rainbow colors underneath her tongue like the blue and purple veins and yellow midline on the cherry pink underside of her tongue. I don't like it when I see her tongue like that. I don't like the rainbow under her tongue or the pink surface/edges of her tongue. She also uses her fingers to rub her soft cute pink tongue, and she enjoys doing that because she feels her lovely tongue is so cute to play with. She uses her fingers to play with the soft pink underside of her tongue and massage the soft pink edges of her tongue. She licks her fingers and feels the smooth pink surface of her tongue. I don't like it when she uses her fingers to play with her tongue because her tongue is not a toy and she shouldn't touch it. I also see that she licks the lid of yogurt and pudding every time she opens her container. She sticks her tongue out and licks every bit of the yogurt and pudding off the lid. I don't like it when she licks things like that, since it's bad table manners. I really don't like it when I see her tongue. I told her several times to stop sticking her tongue out, stop touching her tongue with her fingers, and to stop licking the lids. She didn't listen. What can I do about it?

It sounds like your classmate’s habits with her tongue really bother you, and you’ve already tried asking her to stop, but she hasn’t changed her behavior. Since you can’t control what someone else does with their own body, the best approach may be to focus on how you react to it. Here are a few things you could try: Avoid looking at her when she does it – If seeing it bothers you, try to focus on something else or sit where you won’t have to watch. Accept that people have different habits – While her actions seem strange to you, they might be completely normal or comforting to her. Set boundaries – If she’s doing it directly in front of you or in a way that feels intrusive, you can politely say, “Hey, I’d rather not see that” and then change the subject or move away. Let it go – If you’ve already spoken to her multiple times and she hasn’t changed, she may not see it as a problem. If that’s the case, it may be best to stop focusing on it and let it be. At the end of the day, people have different habits, and while you don’t have to like them, stressing over it too much might just make you more frustrated. Instead, try to redirect your attention to things you enjoy.

Hi Charrprunk (- haha!), What a weird and, frankly, antisocial thing to do! Questions: 1. How soon into your acquaintanceship did this habit of hers show itself (i.e. in front of you)? 2. What was her response or reaction that first time you confronted her over it? And each subsequent time thereafter? Plus - how many times did you, in total? 3. Have you ever thought about responding by saying nothing 'except for' graphically picking your nose in front of her?....and then,, when she eventually cracks striking a deal? (Joke) (sadly) Orrr...what about telling her she looks like an escaped mental patient when she does that, and that it makes you feel EMBARRASSED on her behalf? 4. Apple Orgies for asking (normally I can tell), but - are you a guy? 5. In what other ways (no matter how subtle or seemingly tiny) is she inconsiderate or downright unfit for human consumption, whether toward you or other people?

Oops - forgot one: 666. Indeed, DOES she happen to do this only in front of you, never others?

BarbieGirl (hi!), that was a really good response, thank-you!...especially, your listing all the coping options, but I just want to check if Charrprunk has already complained and set boundaries, etc.)

Charprunk, are you still there? I've had this urge to ask you: If you had to put money on it - do you think it's at all possible that your friend is doing this weird and, frankly, antisocial tongue thing on-purpose - to passive-aggressively 'get you back' for something(s)?....by offending, annoying and discombobulating you? Have a think... When did this start? Obviously, if she'd done it right from the start before you'd grown any attachment, you could and no doubt would have rejected the idea of friendship? Or did you get lumped with her, as in, sharing a desk? Could it be that it only became a 'habit' of hers after the first time you remarked on it...because she saw how much it badly-affected you? I.e. there was a genuine reason for it the first time which, had you not said anything, wouldn't otherwise have become repeated? Does she do it in front of other people or just you. Have a think...

PS: (while I've got a bit of time) this'll make you laugh: On first reading your thread title, I read it that she would lick her *eyelid* - with her tongue. Hence, my instant reaction was to put: You must need glasses, mate, because - that ain't a classmate, that's a lizard! (Made me laff, anyway, haha.)