What's wrong with him

Im head over heels in love with a very lovely, kind, shy man and my dream was for him to ask me out. 3 years later he finally did! 8 months into the relationship i feel maybe i should have said no. He is from Thailand and is very religious but always seemed to be just like me when we spoke to each other at work, he seemed to love sex, alcohol and having fun. But 6 months later we still havent had sex, he wont drink and seems to be pushing me away! When i try to have sex with him he will go quite far then stop, saying he wants to wait, am i doing something wrong? is he cheating? When i asked him if he loved me he said more than anything, more than the world itself - so why is he backing off from me. He keeps talking about going home to thailand as his mums ill for a few months and hasnt even invited me, the other day when i finished work early i saw him crying in bathroom. When i asked what was wrong he just hugged me told me he loved me and then refused to talk about it. Am i paranoid? How can i help him if he wont talk to me, he wont even eat!

Louise, don't worry if he doesn't want to follow through with the sex. Perhaps he has religious reasons for not obliging (perhaps also why he doesn't drink) and should have been doing these things before and now feels guilty, or maybe his upbringing or culture have some part to play. If you are sending him the negative signals, then maybe you will start to push him away from you! Make the most of the time you spend together in other affectionate ways. Rather than worry about the sex element of your relationship, try to view things from his perspective and understand his needs. Identify what it is he wants to get out of the relationship - either through the day to day signals he gives you, or if your relationship is strong enough, discussing them face to face in a frank and open conversation. Hope that you are able to suss him out. Good luck Lou