Help! Ex husband vs bf please help!

I'm divorced and separated for 1 1/2 years. He is very tied in with my family for many reasons. he is always around I alway have to hear about him. I don't see him but I have to avoid family events and things I am used to going to because I now have a boyfriend. We almost had a baby I had a miscarriage. I talked toy ex husband and he wants to get back together. It is all too appealing for many reasons. he has been through so much with me. one reason we separated is because he always talked about how he hated "the man" and wouldn't get a real job while I was a manager of a corporate business. We also lived with his grandparents we were never out on our own. And i wanted that. He told me "music was more important than me" and never listened to how I felt. But I could be myself with him. He now is financially stable which is appealing as well but he did not work for it it was an inheritance and he was my best friend. But he smokes and drinks a lot but all around is a good guy. My current boyfriend my family likes a lot. It took some adjusting but they do. we live together and my complaints are he sometimes isn't very sensitive and I need constant affection and sometimes that gets neglected. he has a lot of debt but works really hard. My ex wouldn't change a tire or mow the lawn if his life depended on it. Now current bf does all those sweet things for me. and there is SOOO much passion between the two of us (bf) and the sex is amazing gives me shivers thinking about it. my ex husband not so much. Ex husband lives the musician life in and out of bars and it's tiresome now bf loves spending time with me being home at a decent time and anytime he hurts my feelings he changes it. Ex husband not so much. one reason we split was after a while we lived two separate lives under one roof. but there is something pulling me towards him... I don't know if it's because he has money and not all the stress is on me this time and he is on his own (handed to him though) in his parents house and he could actually provide and he smothers me in affection now. Me and bf live with my mom for now this is where I have stayed since the divorce she does not have a job and I pay the bills she is getting up in her age Now I talked to my bf about the things he was doing that upset me and actually left him to go bk to my ex husband. But bf came and told me he was going to fight for me that we just lost the baby and he can't lose me too and said he would fix it and so far he has but there is still my ex husband do I want to be with him because it woul be easier and it's familiar and no financial stress I could even not work if I wanted to... And he says he wants kids which I do bad and that's something we fought about in the past about how he wasn't much of a father like figure and I don't know that he could be. And me and ex husband have never actually tried a second time. bf is amazing with children. I'm just so confused please help. And don't tell me apparently neither of them make me completely happy so neither. there's always issues in relationships so if that were true to be CONPLETELY happy with someone is be alone forever. Please help.