Boyfriend on hook up site!

Hi All Just looking for some advise if anyone has been in this situation or can just offer advise. I checked my boyfriends email 2nite which i kno is vry wrong but i had my reasons. Anyway i found several emails from sme hook up site and one of these gave me a link which got me straight onto his profile where he had a profile pic of him in his boxers no face just boxer area and telling bout himself saying he wanted smething new and in the looking for section selected casual sex r discreet relationship. I then found 3 emails he had sent to different girls two asking to email him back and one flat out saying wuld luv to meet her for no strings sex. Needless to say im horrified as its pretty damning stuff. Im planning on vonfronting him 2morrow but im afraid that he will try (and suceed) in telling me that he was bored in nites at work and was just a bit of fun but i dont think this is rite for a guy in a 5 year relationship is it?? Also feel that he is planning to get up yo no gud cause he paid a 30eur fee to join! My instincts tell me to walk out the door but need to kno for sure as hve no where to go and will b difficult to find accom i van afford do hve to kno im rite yo leave?????

If people are in relationships they still have their right to privacy and your bf won't take it too well when he finds out you went through his mail but like you said you had your reasons and one is possibly that he's been exhibiting some suspicious behaviour and now that you've found out you have to confront him and talk it over with him. you might think you're in a tricky situation because you depend on him for accommodation but that doesn't mean you have to be his doormat and just keep quiet about his online escapades. Tell him you found out about his activity on the hookup sites, apologize for invading he's privacy but demand to know why he's been visiting the site. 5 years is a long time and time has a way of making relationship chemistry fizzle esp when it comes to sex so this could be a wake up call for you, ask him what he finds interesting in those women that he no longer does in you and if its more sexual adventure let him know you're open to it i.e. if you can. just remember you have a lot at stake and relationships are hard work,it's worth the try but if all else fails and he needs some time out to express he's carnal instincts elsewhere you'll have to look for alternative accommodation e.g. I'm sure you can get something. it's not healthy to feel helpless in a relationship just because you're financially dependent on someone. leaving might sound like a scary prospect but it can give your bf time to appreciate your emotional investments in the relationship and most importantly it'll help you become more independent starting out on your own.