Not sure what to do....

I have been in a relationship with my partner for the last 6 years, it has been a strange time, and I seem to have reached 6 years without knowing it. I am not 'in love' with him but I do care about him. I know that I should call it a day but I do not have the strength to deal with the 'fall out' He is a wonderful person who is considered by everyone as being great, the problem is, he always puts everything else before us. There is no romance only 'forced' attempts after I have confronted him about the lack of communication and romance in our relationship. But within a week it is always back to the way it was before. I should leave but I can't seem to do it. I need to hear from someone who has been in this situation. I can't talk to anyone - not even my friends, they all see him as a wonderful partner, and that I should be grateful. I am lucky in some ways - he works hard, treats me well, but I don't love him. Help. Thanks Lottie.

I know its going to be very hard but you need to do it, my sister ended up getting married to a guy she never loved and completely ruined her life, she was so unhappy even tho she put on a bave face. If you carry on with this man, even tho he may be so wonderful to other people (its not them whos with him, its you) you will jus regret it, your relationship will turn into a pair of old slippers, you will stay with him forever just because you can. He can find someone else who really loves him, you can find someone else who you really love. Every break-up is hard, getting hurt is apart of life...... thats why we have friends and family, to be with us through the bad times. Try talkin with him, see if things change, if not its time to move on girl...... best of luck.....

I completely agree wit Daisy, x oh Lottie i do feel so sorry for you...... x bein in a love less relationship is pointless if you want me to b blunt bout it..... x every girl needs romance, love does excist n u will neva find it stickin wit sum1 u dnt love. After 6 years u must know that things will not change. I think u hav to grab the bull by the horns and leave him x, stay friends with him. xx Grit your teeth and take the plunge...... u tryed a trial seperatation??? xxx

Thanks Lucy, Thanks Daisy. I am going to talk to him this weekend. I think the trial seperation is a good idea, so I am going to suggest that. Thanks again, Lottie.