Broken trust

I have been in a relationship with this woman for almost 7 years. 6 months ago she met a straight woman and they began a relationship behind my back. I found out about it and confronted her. She swore she would end it with this woman and that she could not live without me. Well....it happened twice more and kept being promised that it was over between them. She swore it was over; that the other woman was completely out of her life. She cried, made promises, blocked the lady from calling her on the cell phone, etc. I just recently went out of town for Christmas and she didn't call me for 24 hours. When I ask her about it, she said she was with her daughter. When I got home, the ashtray was full of the other woman's cig butts. I looked in my girlfriends phone and the two of them had been texting the entire time I was gone. They made plans on 2 different nights to be together. Again I confronted my mate and she kept saying I was wrong; that they never saw each other while I was gone. She said the cig butts belong to another friend who I happen to know was also out of town. I love this woman very much and I know I should get out of this relationship but every time I try, she shows up at my house, my work and even my church, crying and begging me to forgive her. Help!!

I know how hard this is for you & I truly feel for you. But you know what you need to do. This person does not cherish ,or respect you.Its pretty sad. To do it once was enough but to continue to do it numerous times than cry & beg for you ,she does not deserve you! Though it is very hard & you do love her it cant work.& she has shown you that. You are better than being treated this way! You need to move on & have the right women show you how blessed they are you have you & not except anything less. I hope you find your pure faithful happiness with the right person!

I feel for you and I know this is hard to hear. If she really loved you she wouldn't continue to hurt you like this. Then the only time she wants you is when she realizes that you are going to leave. I once again am so sorry for you having to go through this but you need to do what is best for you. And she needs to learn to respect peoples feelings more.

Thank you both so much for your replies. Things have gotten worse since I posted. I let her sweet talk me into going out of town for New Year's Eve. She made a million promises before we left and begged for one more chance. Well...we were at a casino at midnight when the new year came in. She kissed me and we toasted with champagne. 20 minutes later she went to the restroom and I sneeked in there and heard her on the phone to the other gal telling her happy new year, she missed her and loved her. I confronted her, the trip was ruined and we came home the next day. I was so done with her. I changed my phone numbers and locks at my house. She was in my driveway when I got home from work the next day, doing the crying and begging again; making a bunch of wonderful promises. I know what I need to do. I need to kick her to the curb but I seem to be having a hard time doing it. Help.

The next time she is begging and crying you have to stop and think about all the hurt she put you through. She never thinks twice to meet up with this woman whenever you're not around. It will be hard cause you do care for her. Feelings never really die but you know you don't have a healthy future with this woman.