Confused and frustrated

I dont know what to do or think any more. My world seems to be falling apart. I have step children that are allowed to rule the house. You bring anything up about it and all you get is the famous answer "i dont see the big deal". I am really getting tired of hearing it. Ive tried talking to him bit with no success. I also would like to have a child. Ive been discusing this with him for the last ten years. I got paper work from the government to adopt a child but he never once looked at the papers. And still after 4 years he has not looked at them. We even talked about getting his operation reversed but that wont happen.its been almost 15 years since it was done. I dont know what to do. Im basicaly a slave in my own house to him and his kids. I hate it

wow. what an ordeal. I am sorry. i can imagine how rough that is. Just sounds to me you are not being appreciated. When my mother wasn't getting the appreciation she deserved she cheated on my father. If you don't want to end up in that situation u need to act now. U deserve happiness and to not be taken for granted. Him and "his" family are in their comfort zone and i wouldn't bank on them changing. So who does that leave? You. it's up to you to make yourself happy. no one else is going to do it for you. Also, sounds as tho you and he are in two different phases of your lives. he's comfy yet u want more. If he can't compromise and meet u halfway u might have some serious thinking to do. just remember u do deserve to be happy and do whatever u must to obtain it even if it tears u up momentarily it may be completely worth it in the long run.

He clearly does not consider you at all. He dismissed you and you allow it to happen. 10 YEARS and not child. 4 YEARS and has not looked at the adoption papers. You have the patience of a saint. Get out! Get a life of your own. Find a backbone and then find someone that is a real loving partner who wants the same things you do and loves and RESPECTS you, or you heart will be forever LONLEY with this relationship. Don't waist one more second giving this guy time to blow you off. Remember, you deserve better!