Should I get more respect?

I've been in a relationship with this man for about 4 years now. There has been a few huge fights and little fights but for the most part we get along well. However there is a few things that I just wonder about. The first is money. I am not one to cling to it but if I work for it I feel I should be able to pay at least what I need.Yet when he needed it I gave him all the money I made from working these 3 day jobs. He told me he would buy me what I needed but he didn't. He has gave me a little cash but then ask me to buy him something with it. And when he has money he never really tells me how much and never buys anything I really need. Then he seems to listen to everyone else and what I have to say doesn't mean anything. It makes me feel like he thinks I'm dumb or something. I usually do anything he asks which is something I know I need to stop) I really love this man and he isn't all bad. These are just the bad things that really have me thinking some days. I know he loves me but how can I tell him to show it more without a huge fight. He has an anger problem he never gets physical at all. I've learned to let him go and not talk to him when he is like that.The worst though is when he said he wanted to get married for his birthday and then when it was time he wanted something else.