Stung!

I'm separated from my husband since two years and has been keeping a fairly low profile socially, focusing fully on my kids and my career. Since a few months my friend's husband has been trying to attract my attention. I too have been enjoying all the attention but did not reciprocate for fear of it developing into something bigger. I know that my friend and her husband is going through a difficult marriage but have always tried to support her emotionally despite my attraction for her husband. But I guess the loneliness and want for attention got the better of me and I started responding to his messages and texts since last week. A day after, we were constantly texting and talking to each other until almost 4 am! He kept talking of how he finds it nice and soothing to have me around and how he always looked forward to my coming to meet his wife or going out with them. He also said that we should try and meet alone and get to know each other well. He is a Scorpio guy and speaks very passionately, so a lot of the time the conversation ended up with talks about physical intimacy. He does not have kids of his own and even said that he would like to have a kid with me! So basically I was smitten from the word go! We met up very briefly the next day, where we kissed and made out. But it was very brief as I had to rush back home. Since then he has been avoiding me. At first he said he does not want to hurt me and wants to take this slow. But then there has been zero communication from his side. I've stopped chasing but I'm at a total loss as to why he has not given this a closure and why he's left this open and hurting. Could it be that he only wanted a physical relationship and did not want emotional involvement. I agree it was all too soon, but why does he have to ignore me this way? Is it because he suddenly feels guilty of cheating his wife who he claims not to love? Or is he just a plain jerk who tried to use me? I am trying to move on from this but can't stop thinking why he suddenly disappeared? I would be grateful for some advice!

He probably feels guilty about cheating on his wife, and honestly you should feel guilty as well. He is your friend's husband. How would you feel if you were in her position? She probably knows her husband is cheating on her (likely with more women than just you). Imagine how she would feel if she found out he cheated with you? If you truly have strong feelings for him, divorce your husband and tell him to divorce his wife before taking it any further. If he's not willing to do that then he's just using you and will never actually be with you.

i can't know well enough to say one way or another what this guy's intentions were/are. there are a lot of reasons why a guy may act funny and distant, and guilt is certainly a good one. however, the fact that your conversations consistently ended up on the topic of intimacy...well that's a red flag. it is a very common tactic of guys to work sex/intimacy into the conversation with a girl, you know, to get those wheels spinning in her head. keep in mind as well, he is deceiving his wife (whom he has vowed to honor) by seeing you. how much more likely is he to deceive you?