Need advice :(

heres the thing, i've been with my partner for 16 month and we have a baby at the age of 14weeks.. the thing is, he isnt helping me at all since we got the internet in, hes constantly on the xbox or computer and just doesnt pay any of us attention.. the whole internet thing is really begining to cause alot of problems.. he tends to give pur baby shorter feeds just to make it quick as hes obsessed ive talked to him alot about it, talked about cancelling the internet and he just isnt listening its becoming a bad relationship! i just dont know what to do anymore, i live a long way away from any family and friends so im on my pwn day in day out.. im even falling slightly into depression.. can somebody please give me advice as to what i need to do?

He sounds like another immature dad who has discovered how to make babies without understanding what being a parent is about. I think it would be a good idea to have a chat with your GP about feeling depressed (probably a natural reaction to giving birth and all that has followed) but your doctor will know of any local support resources. At the very least, it sounds as if you could do with a few adults to talk to. Being on your own all day, and then feeling invisible to the baby's dad can't be doing your sense of self a lot of good. Do you think talking with a couple counsellor would help? Would your partner go? Having a baby brings about a great deal of change in family life, but it sounds as if this may be going clean over the top of your partner's head? Either that, or maybe he doesn't know where to start, and is blanking the new process by diving into his xbox. I suspect you might need to discuss the division of labour in principle, i.e. does he feel he's on R&R in the evenings and so shouldn't be asked to help? Having found agreement on the above, it might then be a good idea to make a list of who does what, and when. If he's not open to working on such an agenda one-to-one, then maybe the involvement of a third-party, such as a counsellor, will help with brokering a fair deal. There is Relate, and Marriage Care in the UK - both have websites for further details. Try using copious amounts of positive reinforcement when he does do something to help. If you can find a baby sitter, try and get some time out together to get some R&R as a couple. Change can be stressful, even when the reasons for change are positive. Hope things pick up for you soon. Sky