Third year at uni boyfriend trouble.... help

soo i'm new to this but i just need to vent somewhere so here i am. i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years now....mostly been spent at separate uni's...which was working out just fine, i trust him with all my heart etc, that's not the problem with us. i can't pinpoint when but he just won't talk to me any more, we have nothing to talk about it seems and its becoming a big problem. i'm trying my hardest and we have talked about it on skype, (i can't see him until at least april). its our final year and the stress has piled on big time, we have out dissertations to do and all our work, exams, i work so that's extra pressure on me as well which i know i take out on him at times. and he hasn't been doing half as well as he should be, in fact he has a D and an F so far from grades he got back, which is not good news for him, and i feel guilty as i have been getting good grades and feel i cant talk to him in case this upsets him. I literally feel myself spiralling into madness, its like i stalk him or something, should i leave him to it, should i put up with most of the day not communicating unless i initiate? should I carry on pestering him for a response? I dont know how to deal with it all, it was all going soo well, we are both entirely consumed with our stress....i hope that is all that is going on with him, i love him with all my heart....i can't lose him....what do i do? pester, leave alone? I also find i am getting back into bad habits, i used to self harm....and i can feel it coming back, only minor but its all spiralling out of control, help.....

I find it difficult to keep the conversation going on Skype so well done to you for keeping it up for so long! You both sound really stressed, so this could just be a crappy period you are both going through. He does sound like he is having problems at university, so he may be having trouble speaking because he is secretly more unhappy about it then he lets on (and possibly doesn't want you to worry about him and get even more stressed?). Taking the context into account, it doesn't seem like there is a problem with the relationship. I'd suggest sending him a little 'care package' with nice sweets and chocolate / things he likes and that might help him relax so he can focus on studying. A sweet note saying: "I'm always here for you" could really brighten up his mood until he next sees you. Good luck! xX

thanks, that sounds like a nice idea. just hope it doesn't patronise him or anything. i am worried sick of fucking things up, mainly fuelled by the intense stress levels i think, but thanks for your advice, no one else seems to understand it....sucks being in a relationship and yet feeling soo alone.