In love but confused

I am 47 years old with 4 kids 3 sons ages 15, 16, and 22 and a daugther 12. i have been dating a man 43 for about 6 months now when i met him he told me he was in a bad relationship that he was ready to end. I did something i know was wrong and still kept seeing him. well now he says he does not see her anymore and its just me. another thing that bothers me is that i have never been in his house. he says thats the only place he can have a piece of mind so he does not bring family or friends there i know he lives alone because he talks to me every night when he gets home untill 2 and 3 in the morning sometimes. I love him dearly now. My kids love him too. He does anything and everything for me and the kids its just that i dont know if i can really trust someone that started seeing me when he was already in a relationship? and what about this thing with me never going in his house after 6 months. I have been there but never went in.

i was not on here looking to reply but when i seen ur post i had to say something, not what u want to hear im sure. i know its different for everyone so keep that in mind while reading what i have to say. i once dated a man who worked outta state went from state to state 1 construction job to the next, made good money. he had 3 kids, a marriage that he was seperated from for atleast 7yrs b4 i knew him an he was best friends with my cousin an my bff. i knew him a year i dated him 4 months of that yr. i never went inside his house, an he talked to me b4 work durrin work at lunch break after work an b4 bed both by phone text an email daily. we seen each other on his down time from work when he was home in between job sites, we spent many hours together. long story short, evrything he said was a lie. i found out that he had a live in girlfriend who did not know abt me, an was still seeing his wife who he was seperated from an had just started a 3rd relationship with another younger girl also. come to find out he was reliving the same work stories same life plans with all of us by constanlty repeating the same convo with each girl each day he never had to remember who he told what to there for was never caught in a lie. its hard to explain. but when i seen u say uve never been inside his house it brought back flashbacks of my "relationship". there was always a reason for me to wait outside or not come over always a reason to do things elsewhere an always a reason we could just hang out at his home. an no1 not even my friends or my cousin new of his many girlfriends and they were his best friends. beware an dont be afraid to ask questions an investigate, if u already question why then there is a reason for that. best wishes.

wow. everything you say is just like our relationship.I know somthing is wrong but dont want to really confront him . which i have in the past and he gets upset and we argue so i leave it alone. i know i need to say something but i dont want to upset him. but i dont deserve to be treated bad either. or stay in this for a long time and realize that there was someone else all along. we are going out of town this weekend to newyork. I think this might be a good time to bring it up. thanks.