Very sad

I have a boyfriend/fiancé, we have been together 15 months. He is from Africa and I am from America. I love him with all my heart, but lately we have just been through so much. All we do is argue.............we are so on edge, the littlest things upsets us, and I don't know why. It is stress living so far apart from each other for such a long time, and I think that is the reason for some issues.....but the way he treats me and the things he tells me really hurts me at times, and when I speak up and tell him how I also feel, I am the one wrong, or I am complaining. This is much complicated than normal, because me and him made very strong vows together before God, and to not keep such vows and commitments is a risk. I vowed to love him always, and to wait for him. I vowed to forsake all other for him a lone, and to never give up.......that is some of the important few, to give you all a hint of what I mean. I really want to keep my vows, but why do I deserve to feel the way I do at times. Not all the time is bad, sometimes he can be the most romantic person in the world, and tell me things that make me love him more and more, but also there are times he tell me things that make me think. Any advice would help PLEASE.

your boyfriend obviously feels unimportant to you at time so consciously or unconsciously he is trying to make you feel unimportant also, its called the mirror effect, he may not even realise he's doing it. men are alot more sensitive than we give them credit for he has realised that being angry or needy grabs your attention much more than average days when u maybe busy and ignore them slightly, the name calling is a way of hurting you because they feel hurt as they may have reached out to you and you has knocked them back without realising. vows are very important dont give up!