Traditional parents ruining engagement

**Me and my wife aren't married yet, but I call her my wife in this post.**. I love my wife. But her parents are driving me crazy. My wife is asian, and her parents are very traditional. I understand that. I thought it was pretty cool because of the fact that I can experience another culture, and learn. But the fact of the matter is... I absolutely hate it. Money got tight once I was laid off my job. We asked for some money just to keep our heads above water until I was able to find a new job. Automatically, assumptions were made that I was stealing money from my wife and using it at my own expense. Being a man, and being taught that you are suppose to provide, that comment hurt me deep. This is when the fire began to burn the bridge. These accusations were made more than four times. My wife's parents are Buddhist , and I am not. So they would go to a temple, and do whatever it is that they would do. But they would also force me to partake in it. I'm a Rastafarian and follow the bible word from word. So it was offensive to me that they would force me to do such a thing, but, to please them, I went, but did not take part in their worship. Her parents are so demanding that its driving me crazy. Understand that we have one life, and we must live that life to the fullest. At least that's what I believe. So I will never have anybody tell me how to live my life, because it is mines, not theirs. Her parents dictate her life, and its hard for us to move forward as a family together with her parents always dictating and trying to control. She says nothing, does nothing about it. And not once, did she stand up for me when those earlier accusations were made against me. She just listens and always says sorry. That hurt me deep. My wife is a good woman, but to not defend me really hurts me. At this point in time, the bridge is still burning. But I'm trying to douse the fire and try to make this work. So many arguments have been created between me and my wife because of her parents. I am not the type of person to give her an ultimatum of me or her parents. Not going to happen. I finally got back on my feet, got a good job that pays me very well, and able to provide again. So my frustration level was beginning to lower. Plus, on the 5th of February 2013, me and my wife had our first kid, a beautiful baby boy we named Adyyn. I've never been a happier man. This is where the bridge burns completely. Due to me following the bible word from word, I said before my son was born, that his hair is to never be cut. (1 Samuel 1:11 And she vowed a vow and said, “O Lord of hosts, if you will indeed look on the affliction of your servant and remember me and not forget your servant, but will give to your servant a son, then I will give him to the Lord all the days of his life, and no razor shall touch his head.”) I told this to my wife and her parents. I wake up one day, and see my beautiful son, with no hair! They cut his hair! After I made a simple request to not do it! It's a traditional thing to cut the newborns hair, according to them. But what angers me is the fact that I do everything in my power to please them, yet I ask one request of not touching MY SONS hair, and they could not honor that. They do it behind my back while I was asleep. My wife was asleep also. She was upset, but apparently she didn't understand why I was so angry. Because its a "traditional" thing, it's okay to do it? No. That is my son. Not theirs. This is my family, and I'm the head of my family. My wife does not understand the fact that I hate it when her parents are trying to control our lives. I've told her if we ever split, it would because of her parents. I've been putting up with this for two years now. The cutting of my sons hair was The breaking point. I can't take it anymore. I never received an apology from her parents. And my wife still lets them control her life. I feel this is only going to kill our marriage. I love my wife with all my heart, and I do not want us to end. But I can't continue to be in a marriage where my wife's decision is always made by her parents and not her.

kind of ironic. Her parents control her and now you are trying to control your son by not cutting his hair. if he wants to believe in the bible and rasta when he's older then he can decide to then...and not cut his hair. you are a controlling person and feel threatened by her parents. just let it go.